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Selecting menu before tasting for the RSVP

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    MissBK    July 2009  

    Hi Hive! I need opinions from foodies! 

    I will not be able to have a tasting before my invitations need to be printed.  First- because the caterer is moving offices and unable to schedule any tastings in April and second, I was unable to make any of the dates in Feb or March because I live far away.   I am really dissapointed and a little upset with the situation - poor planning on my part and lack of communication with caterer.  

    But moving on - now I just need to come up with a menu option to put on these RSVP cards and I can do my tasting at a later date to refine the choice (and pick the appetizers and cake).  

    Option 1: I can put a vague choice on the rsvp card. for example: Chicken or Fish or Vegetarian.  Or I should I be a little more specific: Chicken or Sea Bass or Pasta.  I'm hesitant to be more specific on the fish bc there are so many different fish options (salmon, halibut, sea bass, trout, etc). Do I just take a chance on a specific type of fish?

    Option 2: I could go with a duet meal, serving the same thing to everyone so I don't have to put the choice on the invitation.  The leading option is Chicken and Shrimp duet or Halibut on a filet.  While it would be easier, I hesitate with the duet bc not everyone likes chicken (like me) or beef or what if someone is allergic to shrimp or hates fish, and how do I capture the vegetarians...  Has anyone done the duet option succesfully? 

     

     

     
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    mary-alice-me    May 24, 2009   Kentucky

    I would suggest doing your first option. Very few guests are likely to be very curious about the kinds of fish you'd serve, in much the same way they won't be likely to question what kind of sauce/seasoning would be on chicken. If someone asks for more details, you could either explain the situation or inquire if they're concerned about food allergies.

    Many guests might not even remember what they chose, and this way you get a count and can accomodate more requests. I think a lot of times when people specify menus on the RSVP cards it's to show off the menu. Nice, sometimes, but not necessary. 

     

     
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    laurajane    July 25, 2009   Toronto ON

    I was in a similar situation, and left the options vague (chicken, beef, & veg). However rather than words, I had the graphic designer use a chicken icon, a cow icon, and carrots. It's adorable. :). The planned menu is a little more planning to keep track of, but since chicken tends to be a little cheaper, you can save a bit of money here.

    While the combo plates are lovely, it tends to be a lot of food & likely a lot of waste. If you're having a cocktail hour or anything like that, people won't be STARVING for your dinner and won't necessarily appreciate it.  Again, the cost is likely more than than with option #1 so don't feel like you have to do it just because you can't be specific on the menu.

    Good luck! Selecting menu before tasting for the RSVP :  wedding caterer invitations etiquette food Icon Wink 

     
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    lotus    june 26, 2010   vancouver

    I love what laurajane suggested.  I think those little icons are super cute on invites!  A space where people can list food allergies would be helpful.

     
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    MsB    December 2008  

    I would go with "chicken, beef, fish, veggie" etc. Be vague instead of selecting before you get to taste - especially considering you have so many options!

    If people have allergies they will tell you (we didn't leave a space on ours but people called or wrote it on the RSVP). However we did include a description of all 5 of our options which probably alerted people to things they may be allergic to. You may want to leave a line that says "allergies?" don't say "special requests" as this may allow people to make unreasonable requests that are not actually allergies but moreso personal likes/dislikes! :)

     

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