(Closed) Self conscious and nervous

posted 5 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
Member
5479 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Your wedding will be beautiful because there’s nothing in the world more lovely than a happy couple committing their lives to one another.

Nobody will be pulling out your tag to see what size you are.  Beauty is not a number on a tag, nor a number on a scale.  Confidence and happiness are prettier than any amount of make-up or the teeniest tiniest bridal gown.

You can find a lovely gown that flatters your figure, makes you feel beautiful, and makes you happy!  Just remember that your SO proposed to YOU, just as you are, and loves YOU for YOU ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 4
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247 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@roxirose:  I feel like that too. I am so self concious that I wanted an ‘arranged elopement’ if that makes sense, but my partner is from a large family and wanted the whole shebang. The thought of walking down the aisle terrifies me.

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

oh dear I thought she was talking about being a first timer in the bedroom. glad I read the other responses first! 

You look gorgeous in your dress! You will look even more gorgeous on your wedding day!  Stop being so hard on yourself. Your fiance loves you just the way you are!

Post # 7
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16217 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Um, did my mind jump to the gutter? I read “wedding night” as in “wedding night” with her new husband, not the night the reception is held. If I’m wrong, MY BAD!

Either way, though, your guy loves you and thinks you’re beautiful, I guarantee it. He can’t wait to see you on your wedding day. Find a dress that makes you feel amazing (or lingerie that you rock, if you’re talking about the other scenario). Feeling comfortable and beautiful will make a world of difference in how much you enjoy your day/night. And really, no matter what, you’ll be a happy, stunning, blushing bride because you’ll be radiating so much love and joy. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 8
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334 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@DaneLady:  +1! Well said!

I think to marry someone is truly the biggest compliment you can give a person. Your future husband is going to be there and he’ll be committing to spend the rest of his life with you. He loves you for you. He thinks you’re absolutely gorgeous and he can’t imagine his life without you. That’s why he’ll be there that day, and he’s doing that in front of friends and family. Think about that. That’s a pretty big deal. Of all things, that should make you feel 10′ tall with pride. That man loves you for who you are, so there’s no need to feel self conscious.

Often, we are truly our worst critics. I can look at wedding pictures and be unhappy about my hair falling flat later in the evening. My DH didn’t notice at all. Our guys don’t look for negatives because they’re focusing on the positive. Those little things we nitpick and worry about, turn out to be nothing big in the end.

 

 

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Gemstone:  Me too! I guess we all know what’s on my mind.  Glad I wasn’t the only one though! 

Post # 10
Hostess
16217 posts
Honey Beekeeper

@MrsWBS:  Bahahaha! I’m glad I wasn’t alone, too! ๐Ÿ˜‰

However, if us weirdos are possibly right — buy yourself some lingerie that makes you feel amazing. Your husband is going to be beyond thrilled about your wedding night no matter what, and if you wear something that you feel stunning in, I guarantee that he won’t be able to resist you. And honestly, a lot of women on here say that buying lingerie for their wedding night was a waste of time because they didn’t wear it very long, so there’s that to consider, too…

Post # 11
Hostess
16217 posts
Honey Beekeeper

@FutureMrsAch:  Well said. Your husband won’t even notice the little things that we women worry about.

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

If you’re referring to having your new husband seeing your body for the first time on your honeymoon, I wouldn’t worry about that. I am considered to be plus sized, and my DH only ever saw me fully dressed or in a bathing suit at a pool prior to our wedding night. I was a little nervous, so I spent a lot of money on some very luxurious, very beautiful lingerie that made me feel elegant and beautiful. However, my new husband quickly made me feel confident in his attraction to me with or without the beautiful “wrappings.” ๐Ÿ™‚ I’m sure that your FI loves you very much and will be very happy to finally see and share intimacy with his new bride.

Post # 13
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4513 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@roxirose:  Do you mean sex on your wedding night? Will this be your first time? Remember that your FI knows exactly what you look like (even if you’ve never had sex) & loves you right now, as you are. 

Post # 15
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247 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@MrsWBS:  LOL that though’t didnt even come into my head when I read the post – I’ve spent far too much time on her ooking at everyones pretty dresses to even think about the ‘after party’ so to speak 

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