Post # 1
I had written this post before but I don’t think it accepted it so if it happens to appear later, just ignore this one..
Here’s the deal. I feel silly for posting this because in a lot of ways (and according to my mother) I will be “happy about it when I’m older” but I look super young for my age.
I’m 29 and I get carded EVERYWHERE. Once I got accused of having a fake ID because the guy couldn’t believe I was that age. I am always asked if I have graduated high school, and one time I got a pedicure and the intern at the spa asked me where I was applying to colleges (I was 28 at the time and had been out of college for almost 7 years) and I’ve been married for years (something else people don’t believe)
I have a young face (we’re talkin dimples) and a young-ish body type (flat chested, sort of stringbeanish with no shape), plus I’m 5’1″. I look older with makeup but I rarely apply full makeup in the mornings. I feel as though I dress my age – business casual is mandatory for my job and even my “weekend clothes” are things I often wear to work.
Hubbs and I are TTC and I’m a little scared that I will one day be looked at like I’m a 15 year old mother (not a knock against 15 year old mothers – I’m just not one) and treated poorly because of it (not fair, but unfortunately it does happen)
My “look” has been sort of a funny self depricating thing for a while now but now that I am potentially entering motherhood, I’m feeling some huge self esteem.
Any tips – how to react, how to think, how to change?
Post # 3
just think when you are older, you will look years younger than what you are. You’ll be happy about it then. 🙂 does that help? sorry. i don’t have any advice but maybe thinking about how hot you’ll be at 60 will prek you up. All the 30 year old guys will want you. 🙂
Post # 4
I’m 33 and get carded everywhere. I’m 5’2 100lbs (well that’s going to change hopefully because I’m 12 weeks pregnant but I have only gained one lb) i really like it though-it has never bothered me except when I was in middle school I really wanted boobs, but now I like being small. I’ve been asked if my mom was home when I answered my own door. LOL! It’s great-you should enjoy it!
Post # 5
I am right there with your girl – ugh! I am going to be 28 next week and people ask me when I am graduating… HIGH SCHOOL!! I have been out of college for 7 years!!
I hate getting carded for everything, it is the a huge pet peeve of mine. I was once asked to pull up my pants. (yes, the door bouncer really asked me that) He said that my license looked nothing like me and that he wanted to be sure I didn’t have heels on to try and pose as this girl on the license!! They ask me address, DOB, and personal questions its ridic!!
I know that w/in a year I will want to have children and I will get those same snotty, distgusting looks… (another teen mom) and it is very aggrivating. So while I cant give you advice, just know that you are not the only one out there!! xo
Post # 6
Oh I always get asked for back up when I go out. I don’t think it’s that I actually look 20 years old-I think people have a hard time belieiving I’m 33. Last time I went out the bouncer looked at me and was like “NO WAY” I had to give him like three other forms of ID.
Post # 7
I know we always hear “you will love it when you are 50” and we should enjoy this time but it still irkes me! lol
Post # 8
I get that too. My younger brother almost 5 years doesn’t get carded anymore and I still do – with my parents there!! hello!
There’s not much I can do. Make up helps and I got kind of a new hairstyle and now the wedding band really helps.
Post # 9
I know it doesn’t help now, but you will always look younger than your actual age, and try to take it as flattery. When I was moving, I stopped by a liquor store to get some boxes. Right next door was a bar, and a few guys were outside smoking. The one guy asked if I needed any help, and I respectfully declined. He then asked me if I was moving back into college. It certainly felt good, b/c at 29, I haven’t seen college in 8 years!
And when you get pregnant, just make sure you buy yourself a bigger size ring to wear around your ring finger to show you’re married. My SIL’s fingers swelled a lot, and she stopped wearing her rings. She got the dirtiest looks from people, and someone in the grocery store actually walked up to her and told her that she thought it was disgusting that she was having a child out of wedlock. My SIL shot back at her that she WAS married, but just couldn’t get her rings on, and even if she wasn’t married, it wasn’t any of that stranger’s business!
So…try to keep your chin up. You’ll be loving this when you’re 50!