Post # 1
Seriously, just over this weekend, I believe about 5 people (who are NOT on our guestlist) bascially invited themselves to our wedding. One family friend (not a close one at that) said to my FI’s mom (in front of me) “well I’m invited to this wedding, right?” I mean seriously, who does that!? People have No consideration these days, we’re already not inviting all of our friends becuase the guestlist has gone up too high and we simply can’t afford to invite more people. How do you deal with people like this? Ook yes you’ve know the FI’s family for a long time, but are you personally in his life? No. So why do you think you’re getting invited? Same goes for some of her girlfriends. I mean, her son is getting married….NOT HER! (Venting….ok I’m done!)
Post # 3
I’ve had people RSVP with their selection of entre and all that were not invited, and I’ll say nearly 10 (that’s about 15% of our guest list) that got invited b/c they asked other guests and we got second hand pressure.
In the end, I’m flattered that they want to come all this way for our shingdig, and we’ll find a way to make it work. We’d have invited a whole lot more if funds were unlimited.
My biggest problem with deviating from the original plan is the issue of “if I invite these folks then I need to invite this other person” and so on. We’ve told a lot of people that it’s “mostly family”.
Post # 4
I totally understand! I’ve been raging for the past few weeks over the guest list as well. My FI and I came up with a DRAFT guest list just so that our parents could tell us who NOT to invite from that list and instead they just kept adding more and more people. I mean, I had to remove half of my CLOSE relatives just to fit the amount of people we wanted to have, but his family doesn’t seem to get it. We can only invite no more than 100 people, which I wanted them to be our immediate family, but NO we need to invite the “niece of the nephew of the neighbor of the cousin of the aunt of the sister of the lady at the supermarket”…
I feel like I die a little more of stress as the date draws near…