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Osakagrl - I actually can't watch Bridezillas!  I don't like seeing shows that paint people in the worst possible way since I know they are the minority.  And I have to say, the vision that a couple has for their wedding varies from couple to couple.  My husband and I took the view that the wedding really WAS about friends & family.  The point for us was to have them there to share a very important day in our lives.  The fact that I never had to get my own drink that day was just icing!  But when others say their wedding day is about them as a couple, I don't think they are being selfish.  I think they are simply saying that this is officially the day that we become "We" and it really is about that bond between them.

Then again, some people just want to be royalty for a day.  More power to them!  We can't begrudge them that!

You know, I actually agree with you Osakagirl, but then again, my wedding is completely out of the ball park in terms of the norm. I was talking to my Dad today about this horrible reigning sense of self-entitlement when it comes to women getting married. I think that the style of weddings has become what it is today (in respect to women and their attitude towards their wedding) because of the bridal world. They have basically pushed it on the world that YOU deserve whatever you want that day, and that it's mostly about YOU. They have made it ok for women to be demanding in regard to their happiness on that day. It's your day, do what makes you happy, no matter what.

Sure it's partly your day. But no matter how you frost the cupcake, the attitude is selfish and rude, regardless of how many other ladies back you up! It isn't just about you, and it shouldn't be! It should be about your fiance, your family, your friends, and the celebration, not about your centerpieces, dress, and total complete unadulterated happiness. Truth is, if you let go and concentrate more on other people being happy and joining you in celebration, YOU will be happier, happier than if you did this crazy wedding magazine/bridal salon/8 shower concept that the bridal companies have deemed necessary and appropriate.

I love WeddingBee, I really do, and some women really do need support from their peers in regards to wedding issues. I think it's fun to toss around wedding ideas on occasion. But frequently, this place is about like The Purse Forum (ah yes guys, thank you, I just KNEW I needed another Birkin this month, off to the store with my credit card I go! Thanks for supporting me guys! lol) the support isn't necessarily correct or beneficial, it's just a place to go to get affirmation that you should be treated like a princess, that you should get what you want, that you should be the only one wearing white, that yeah your bridesmaids didn't give you that great of a shower, that your FMIL is a giant bitch, and yes you need registries, and OH I can't believe your FSIL said that to you! Hell, I'm guilty of it a time or two! :D

Not all brides are like this! I'm not directing this at anyone, in fact, I'm not on here enough to be able to do that hah, but this is how I've felt from day one regarding weddings, and I may not be right, and lots of people will disagree with me, but that's life :)

@Laylabelle - You made me laugh!

@Osakagrl-If you haven't done so yet, find the A Practical Bride blog.  Meg got married this year, but she still has lots of thoughtful and thought provoking things to say about weddings & marriage.  Read through her history too to get the full picture.  I often found her posts to be very appropriate as I planned our wedding.