- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
I have a friend, let’s call her K. K is a bit younger (22 and I’m 24, but I would say I’m more “life smart” than her) and a very selfish person. She is constantly asking for favours and I’m currently agreeing to drive her and her SO to the airport on Tuesday at 5AM.
Yesterday we hung out and there was a bridal accesory showcase at a local boutique that I really wanted to go to. I only wanted to go for about 15 minutes because I was just looking, and I mentioned it to her. She hummed and hawed (basically made it seem like it was far, and that she REALLY didn’t want to go), and I played it off as if I though it was stupid and we didn’t have to go. She said that because I was giving her a ride at 5AM on Tuesday that she would go with me, but said she wouldn’t refrain from making fun of me for being “such a bride.”
Tell me how you really feel, K? I live in a city across the country from all my friends and family and I’ve planned this entire wedding myself with some help from FI. I feel alone about this wedding 95% of the time, and all I was asking was to have her come with me to the bridal accesory showcase. I’m a very low key and modest person, and it would just be nice to have someone else there with me even just pretend that they care.
Then she proceeded to ask me if I wanted to go to an outdoor to “quickly check something out.” I love outdoor stores and I thought what the heck. When we got there she said she was looking for some new rain pants (will be working on a boat this summer doing ecological stuff). We ended up spending the next 2 HOURS looking for effin rain paints. She got me to get her different sizes, find the salespeople, hold her purse and coffee. I felt like her personal assistant. Not to mention this outdoor store is 2 blocks from the boutique wanted to go but she had previously said it was too far.
So I’m not a confrontational person so I didn’t say anything, but when I got home FI was livid. He told me she was a bad friend and essentially a shitty person. (Sidenote: she has called me “really lame” for volunteering) I’ve already agreed to give her a ride to the airport, but now I really don’t want to. Especially because I know she thinks that a $1.50 coffee pays for the $20 in gas that I’ll be spending to get her there.
Am I overreacting? This isn’t the only time that I felt that my wants are completely lame and then made to feel dumb about it. Then we go do the stuff she wants to do. Does anyone else have crappy friends who make your friendship about them every moment they can? I also feel that I’m only her friend when it’s convenient for her. Forbid I ever want to take away something from a friendship that I’m constantly giving to.
FI said I shouldn’t say anything but to remember this for next time she wants a favour. He said I should drive her to the airport and that if I do say something or don’t drive her there will be a big fall-out and our group of friends could be broken up… a bit dramatic, but I see where he is coming from.
Does anyone else have crappy friends like this? Should I just let it go? Or is this something I should talk to her about.