Post # 1
Just wondering what your thoughts are in selling unwanted wedding gifts or regifting??? I ask cause I have A friend who was caught selling a pair of candlesticks she received from her Aunt and Uncle on eBay. Turns out her Aunt was pretty tech savvy and was looking for a pair of candlesticks for another wedding online and found a picture of the same ones she had gotten for my friend on eBay and thought “wow …they are in perfect condition and still boxed”. She brought them an went to bank deposit and my friends name was shown for the bank deposit!!! The aunt contacted my friend and she if she didn’t want them she could’ve regiffted or returned them. I am kinda any present you get you keep as someone has put thought into that gift and my opinion is that it’s rude to do any of those. So my question is what is worse “selling unwanted gifts for cash or regifting!”
Post # 3
I think making money off of something that was given to you is kind of inappropriate.
Although I don’t really care if people return or regift a present. I am a huge fan of regifting, myself! Even though something is pretty or nice it doesn’t necessarily mean it’s going to fit into my life or my style, so I like to give it to someone who will use or appreciate it. For instance, I just gave a little George Forman style grill that I received after our wedding to a coworker.
Post # 4
Once you give a gift it is no longer your concern what happens to it. The receiver can do whatever they like with it.
It is unfortunate that this person got caught, but the Aunt really has no basis for being mad.
Post # 5
I think selling it and returing it are the same thing- either way you get money in return. I think re-gifting it is the worst. For some reason I just think it’s strange to gift someone something that someone else got for you. TBH though, once I have gifted someone something I don’t care what they do with it. I hate clutter so I fully understand if they decide not to keep it.
Post # 6
@OzRusticBride: If the gift came with a reciept, I’d return it if I truly didn’t think I’d get any use out of it or it completely wasn’t our thing– or if it was something we arleady had.
I recieved a gift at one of my showers that truthfully, I don’t know that I love– and so we will keep it. That’s not to say that years and years down the road it might not end up in garage sale or something….LOL But for the time being, it’s here to stay!
Post # 7
This is why I always give cash as wedding gifts, its a gift I know will be used. If I give someone a gift and its not something they like or will use I don’t care if they return, exchange, sell or regift it, its theirs to do with as they please.
Post # 8
Eh. Selling online is no different than selling at a garage sale in my opinion. Some things can’t be returned and there’s no point in keeping unwanted items in my closet.
Post # 9
Wow that sounds like super bad luck on your friend’s part.
I don’t think either are that bad.
Why have boxes of unused, perfectly new stuff in your cupboards? I agree that once you give it, what is done next is up to the new owner.
I HAVE sold stuff that we got at our house warming, and didn’t need.
I have also given stuff to my brother in law when he was first moving out, sort of like “Hey, here’s a sandwich press we got from Aunt Kel, but we already have one, do you want one for your new place?” As opposed to lying “Hey we got you this awesome gift.”