Post # 1
Around here, families are often invited to a post-wedding gift opening, usually held early the morning after the wedding.
I already know I’ll feel awkard enough opening gifts in front of shower guests, but I really think it’s odd to get up early the day after our long wedding festivities, gather together our families, Bridal Party, and whoever else feels the need to pop in, and open ALL of the gifts in front of them. And do we open all of the cards/checks, too? I haaaaate mornings, and putting on a display for folks, especially when it comes to the gifts people gave us privately. I mean, does Aunt Gertrude really want everyone to know she could only give us $20 or a set of measuring cups and spoons?
I’d rather sleep in with my husband and open our gifts in our PJ’s later in the day. It’s more intimate, maintains privacy, we can take our time and not worry about rushing to please the observers, and it avoids the awkward ‘yaaaay, our third blender’ face.
What sort of public gift opening is common/expected in your family or social circle? Please share! I love learning from the wide variety of perspectives on the WB.
*ETA- I’m thinking group settings, not exchanging a gift on a dinner date with a friend or things of that smaller, personal nature.
Post # 3
I’m so glad our families don’t do that… I would’ve hated getting up early and having to get all pretty and go meet everyone and do the awkward gift opening…
We did get up early the next morning, but it was to catch a flight to Jamaica so it was okay. 🙂
Post # 4
Honestly that sounds like torture. I’d hate to be the bride doing that, and honestly as a guest, watching people open presents is boring 95% of the time.
Wedding showers I’d expect to see gifts opened, same with baby showers.
Little kids birthdays can go either way. Its nice for them to say thank you to people and for people to see them opening the gift they gave, but it depends on the age and personality of the kid and if they are going to turn into anti-social sugar crazed demons with new toys.
Adult birthday parties I wouldn’t expect gifts to be opened unless they are special. eg. handmade photo album made by grandchildren, opened at party. Bottle of wine, opened later.
Post # 5
My fear for the wedding shower is that I have some pretty….interesting friends (BMS) and their idea of Appropreate and mine don’t gel all the time, still love them.
I have this terrible fear that i will be opeing up boxes of sexy undies, or dildos ( THAT is the types of friends i have lol ) in front of grandma ( or mom…. still would be weird if it were mom too) at the bridal shower…
Post # 6
The gift openings used to be popular with my extended family, but they have evolved into gatherings the day after; we did a BBQ. It’s a chance to spend more time with the Out of Town guests. Do you think you could do something like this instead and start it later in the day if that’s what you prefer.
For a gift opening, for the gift cards and cheques you can mention that there is one if you choose to, but you don’t state the amount.
Post # 7
@bluebonnet:Jamaica>awkward gift openings! Good reason to get up.
@Roux:I’d forgotten baby showers! Added to the poll. 🙂
@imalittlebirdie:Sooo true! Didn’t even consider that. We’ve got some characters as well.
@AB Bride:That sounds much, much nicer. Later in the day and more relaxed. That’s a nice way to handle cards, checks, and cash, too. Thanks.
Post # 8
I am so uncomfortable opening gifts in public. At my bridal showers, I insisted that music be on in the background because I couldn’t stand to have everyone just staring at me quietly while unwrapping my gifts.
Post # 9
At my shower we turned the gifts into a game, because around here you ALWAYS open the gifts at a shower. My mom and sister made ‘bingo’ cards for expected gifts, and someone wrote down the first words out of my mouth after everything I opened…and then read them out loud after with the added line ‘between the sheets’ which was amusing and kept people entertained since watching someone else open a box of towels isn’t usually fun for anyone.
As for the wedding gifts, there was NO way I wanted to open them in front of people (especially the cards!) because that was more private (and boring for everyone else). My husband’s aunt hosted a huge post-wedding brunch for the out of towners and we all went there to see everyone again and laugh and even see some pictures a few people had hurried to get developed at one-hour, and then we went home and opened them privately in our home.
Post # 10
It was a bit awkward opening my shower gifts. But then DH’s family wanted us to do gifts that next morning. After going to church with them.
I finally put my foot down on that and said no. I wanted to sleep in and enjoy the time (in a freaking hotel suite complete with hottub!) with my new husband.
Also failed at that….after getting to bed at 3am, DH’s family started blowing up his phone at 9am. Sigh.
Point being, I think the morning after is sleeping time! As a guest or bride, that’s not what I feel like doing the next day!
Post # 11
I hate opening gifts in public. I broke down crying at my graduation party b/c I got a meaningful gift from my deceased grandmother. I really appreciate to open things privately. But alas, my family feels it’s rude and thankless.
Post # 12
@beekiss: lol, DH’s family is the same way. But everyone wants to watch you open cards and random stuff for a couple hours!
Honestly, I think it’s mostly nosiness that people want you to open gifts in front of them. We got a LOT of cards with check/money in them. How interesting is that to watch us open?
Darling Husband and I took everything home, and then we’d open a few each night. It was actually a lot of fun to do it that way.
Post # 13
So we opened all of our cards in front of people… you don’t call out the check amount or dollar amount. That would be tacky. You just move on after you’ve read the card.
Post # 14
I hate opening gifts in public! I already dread doing it at our wedding showers. I wouldn’t be able to do it post-wedding too! Also…I want to sleeeeep in the next day, not have MORE obligations. I sound so whiny. Sorry. Lol.
Post # 15
@indibee: My family is obsessed with public gift opening, birthday, Christmas, graduation, weddings, babies, etc. You name it and they are there in full force with their cameras and half the family. It is so awkward, especially for me, because I hate being the center of attention.
At my bridal shower I was so nervous about opening the gifts for some reason in front of everyone, I had a few cocktails a bridesmaid made, and got a little too loosened up, and rambled on and on about each gift I got, and made sure to track down the person personally in the crowd, full-on cheerleader style (like, “Hey Aunt So-So, where are you?” *she’s filling her tray up with food, mid bite*, “There she is, back there eating! Thank you so much for mixer I love it, I can’t wait to use it” LOL It was so over the top, but I viewed it as good natured payback for all the embarrassment over the years. haha
Post # 16
I didn’t have a bridal shower. I didn’t have a “day after” gift opening either. It is kind of a good thing, as I get nervous opening things in front of people! I only open gifts in front of others at Christmas time (big family get-togethers, but haven’t even done that in a few years!) I ten d to get really excited over gifts (genuinely), and feel silly and childish because I get all giggly and squealy. It doesn’t matter what it is even…I just appreciate the thought and love unwrapping things!!