(semi) unplugged wedding

posted 2 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
Hostess
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

We are doing the same, our officiant will be saying :

“Good evening and welcome to April and Scott’s wedding ceremony. My name is xxxx, I am a Life-Cycle Celebrant® and I will be performing their wedding ceremony. They would like to thank each and every one of you for being a part of their special day. Please turn off all cell phones and other electronic devices, as the ceremony is about to begin. Thank you!”

Post # 3
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Sugar bee

Ditto here! The 3 special dances and cake-cutting, at my daughter’s reception were a mess. So many guests crowded around the dance floor, flashing cameras, taking videos – none of the seated guests could see. So glad the ceremony was unplugged.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Letshaveakiki:  I like everything except the last line of “if BRIDE’S NAME can do it, then so can you.” It just feels a little hostile.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I want to do this because I tend to stress out about details, hearing about people crowded around important happenings to take an amateur pic sounds awful.. More awful? A guest having an obstructed view because of one of these amateur photogs. 

I really don’t know how to word it though, anything I’ve seen tends to sound like an announcement at a theatre or very controlling, which is not at all how I want to lead into our ceremony.

Yours sounds a bit.. Off. You don’t need to mention that the photographer will capture how this moment looks, that’s obvious.. I also think that ending it with a weak joke is cheesy. 

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Letshaveakiki:  This is what we have on our wedding website, and I plan to have the officiant say something similar but haven’t quite figured out the wording yet:

We are thrilled to be celebrating such an important part of our lives with our family and friends. We want you to be able to really enjoy our wedding day, feeling truly present and in the moment with us. We respectfully ask that everyone leave all cameras and cell phones off during our ceremony. Of course we will be happy to share our wedding photos with you afterward!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

Letshaveakiki:  Our priest was supposed to make an announcement – “I request that you refrain from taking photos during the ceremony to preserve the sanctity of the wedding Mass and to provide your utmost support to the loving couple on their special day.”

However, we were married in a church so that might not work for you. And he actually forgot to say it (even though it was his idea!), but hilariously only my Grandma was taking photos, on her iPhone of all things. And you can’t fault Grams for wanting to get some good pics of her granddaughter. I found it pretty adorable to see her in all the pics with her iPhone.

Hello Grandma.

 

Oh there you are, almost didn’t see you there with that phone.

 

Make sure you don’t miss a moment, Grams.

 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

jenilynevette:  That probably won’t stop people from taking photos. I shoot weddings, and about half of them have something similar said at the beginning of the ceremony (especially in churches) and it doesn’t stop people, it’s like the ‘turn off your phone’ commercials before a movie.. some people will still text regardless. I’d make it a little more personal, if people are under the impression YOU don’t want them taking photos, as opposed to some random person they’ve never seen before they’ll be a lot more likely to listen. 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: Royal Park Hotel

Letshaveakiki:  I was so anxious over this.  Our officiant basically said the exact same thing AND we made sure both of our families knew to spread word of mouth that we wanted ZERO pics taken during.  It worked out fine.  Not one person has a phone or camera out during the ceremony.  

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I have some family members who are very into (and very good at) photography and I don’t mind if they take pictures with their real cameras during the ceremony.  I am concerned about everyone else having their phones out, but I don’t know how to tactfully make the distiction.

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Letshaveakiki:  I really don’t like being told how to enjoy the ceremony (or anything). Who are you to say I’ll be less present if I’m taking a photo?

I suggest you (via the celebrant) either tell them that you don’t want to distract the photographer, or simply say words to the effect, “please put cameras and phones away during the ceremony. There will be plenty of time for guest photos afterwards”.

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