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I don't know what the "etiquette" of this situation might be, but this is what I would do! There are some of my parents friends that live in Dallas (I'm in Illinois) that I know won't be coming, but I'm still going to send them invites so they know I would love for them to come and I consider them special people to myself and my parents. Plus, you never know who might change their minds.
It might be a little different for a destination wedding, as plans have to be made further in advance and everything, but I would still stick to the rule that everyone who got an STD receives an invite. If you're really worried about it you can send a little note along with the invite saying "I know the last time we talked you didn't think you could make it but we'd still love to have you join us if you so choose!"
i like chickadee's idea...and we did send to those we knew wouldn't come, just so they wouldnt feel left out if they heard through the grapevine.
on our guest list, we had a column for "invite, but know they arent coming" LOL.
You should still send to those who have expressed they can't come. We are also having a destination wedding and sent invites to all those we sent STD's to. It's more of a politeness thing and just because they can't make it doens't mean they shouldnt' officially be invited (and in the case of family, they may want to save the invite as a keepsake.)
Eh...if someone has already expressed that they cannot come you should not send them an invitation. We had numerous friends who stated, before we sent out invitations, that they could not come. Sending them a wedding invitation we felt, would only be "fishing" for gifts.
Yes, invite them! Let them know you want them to be a part of your day even if you know they can't be there.
I would but only because in the time between now and the time you send out invites, they may have a change of heart or extra money. I know that if someone asked me and i declined, and then had the ability to actually go I would feel akward not getting and invite and woulnd't want to call the bride or groom to say "Hey, can I still come" - know what I mean.
I'm sure this isn't "proper" but just what I would most likely do if I were in the situation.
To each their own :-)
Good luck!!!
I sent one to a few people I knew for sure wouldn't come. My brother for one! I sent him an email saying I sent it to him for posterity's sake, and he told me he was glad, since they wanted to keep it. :) So sweet. I told them not to bother sending the RSVP back, since it was Australia, and would take forever to get here. I sent one to a friend who couldn't make it, too, and he was also glad.
I guess you just never know! I had a few people who were SURE they were coming, but when the invite came, they were just like, what?? Ohhh. Whoops, can't make it.
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I have already gotten some feedback from my std's for my destination wedding next May. Should I still send invites to those who have already declined?