Post # 1
So we’re getting ready to mail invitations in about 6 weeks or so.
My brother has already informed me that he cannot come (he’s 21, doesn’t yet realize how important these things are BUT has managed to get himself an amazing work/study opportunity that happens to mean he’s away for his birthday, my wedding and our sister’s birthday – it is what it is and I told him he’s forgiven)
I just got a message from a friend saying they wouldn’t be able to make it either, she’s on mat leave and they can’t afford the trip (which I expected completely). She said she was telling me so I don’t ‘waste and invite and postage’
So I know technically I’m still supposed to send these people invites – but do I have to? The whole point of her telling me was to save me the invite and the stamps (for a whopping $5 savings but still…)
What should I do?
Post # 3
@MsGinkgo: You certainly don’t “have to”. I probably would and just add a post-it note saying “I know you can’t make it but wanted you to see my awesome invites!” or whatever. 😛 But I’m a paper-fiend so there you go.
Post # 4
Depends. I guess I wouldn’t if they already told me they can’t come
Post # 5
@MexiPino: lol – part of me wants to, I’m making them and am super proud of my invites BUT I also don’t want to make her feel bad.
Post # 6
I had a few friends who ended up booking trips around the wedding and they told me way before I sent out the invites that they couldn’t make it. So I didn’t bother sending them invites. What’s the point? You know what their response will be and most likely they will end up not even sending it back since they know that you already know that they cannot come. Complete waste of an invite and postage IMO. I love our invitation suite as well, but I would rather save it then send it to someone I already know cannot make it.
Post # 7
I wouldn’t since they’ve said they can’t attend. I would consider that different from distant family you invite because you “have to”, but know they won’t come!
Post # 8
@BrandNewBride: thankfully we aren’t inviting the distant family – we cut it at first cousins (and their children) as they’re all our age and we know them all.
If she hadn’t specifically said to not send her the invite I probably would have but I don’t think I will – she’ll probably look at it and say WTF – I told her not to send one!