Send gift if I am not invited to wedding?

posted 2 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 2
24 posts
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Caswell Beach- Oak Island, NC

Daizy914:  I don’t know the back story, so going off what you just posted, I would say yes if you want to try and salvage the friendship. If not, then don’t worry about it. 

Post # 3
2915 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

I wouldn’t.

Post # 4
227 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

It’s all really up to you.  If you are not invited, you usually don’t need to get a gift for them.  But if you care about the couple and still value the friendship, then it’s your choice on getting a gift for them.  I wouldn’t really worry about it though.  I’ve been in a similiar situation where I’ve grown distant from old friends from highschool and when one of them got married, I wasn’t invited since we didn’t really talk anymore.  I didn’t give a gift but I sent her a message congratulating her and wishing good fortune and love for her and her husband.

Post # 5
1566 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Daizy914:  You can send a gift if you want to send a gift. 

Post # 6
716 posts
Busy bee

Up to you.

Post # 7
1244 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Could you? Yes.

Should you? It’s not expected of you.

Would I? No.

Post # 8
11626 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It’s your call.

I also wouldn’t spend my time worrying about what to do for a possible slight that may or may not happen in a year.  Wait until the situation actually comes up before you make a decision…

Post # 9
31 posts
  • Wedding: August 2014

I wouldn’t…if you’re not invited then there’s no obligation to provide a gift.

Post # 10
544 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I wouldn’t.  If I’m not invited, I wouldn’t feel the need to send a gift. 

Post # 11
219 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Temple Beth Am/Love is Blind

I second that, spiffanee 

Post # 12
851 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013


Daizy914:  I wouldn’t send a gift…. obviously these people really do not consider you a part of their social circle…….

I generally only send gifts only when I receive an invite……

Post # 13
1180 posts
Bumble bee

If I’m not invited to a wedding, I’m not sending a gift.

Post # 14
3769 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

I wouldn’t. It is really easy to come off passive aggressive in this situation, so if you do decide to send a gift I would be cautious in how you handle it.

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