Post # 1
A little backstory- I hang out with a group of girls, (six girls-all of which were invited to my wedding and they came – two of which I am very close to but in the past (almost) year since my wedding – things have been very distant between myself and the group which I have posted about previously. One of the girls is planning a wedding for early Spring 2015.
DH hung out with his friend last week and my friends FI was there. DH was talking to him and asking him how things were going with the planning, etc, making conversation. DH told me that he gets the impression that we are not going to be invited.
If we don’t get invited, do I still send a gift?
Post # 2
- Wedding: May 2014 - Caswell Beach- Oak Island, NC
Daizy914: I don’t know the back story, so going off what you just posted, I would say yes if you want to try and salvage the friendship. If not, then don’t worry about it.
Post # 4
It’s all really up to you. If you are not invited, you usually don’t need to get a gift for them. But if you care about the couple and still value the friendship, then it’s your choice on getting a gift for them. I wouldn’t really worry about it though. I’ve been in a similiar situation where I’ve grown distant from old friends from highschool and when one of them got married, I wasn’t invited since we didn’t really talk anymore. I didn’t give a gift but I sent her a message congratulating her and wishing good fortune and love for her and her husband.
Post # 5
Daizy914: You can send a gift if you want to send a gift.
Post # 7
Could you? Yes.
Should you? It’s not expected of you.
Would I? No.
Post # 8
It’s your call.
I also wouldn’t spend my time worrying about what to do for a possible slight that may or may not happen in a year. Wait until the situation actually comes up before you make a decision…
Post # 9
I wouldn’t…if you’re not invited then there’s no obligation to provide a gift.
Post # 10
I wouldn’t. If I’m not invited, I wouldn’t feel the need to send a gift.
Post # 12
Daizy914: I wouldn’t send a gift…. obviously these people really do not consider you a part of their social circle…….
I generally only send gifts only when I receive an invite……
Post # 13
If I’m not invited to a wedding, I’m not sending a gift.
Post # 14
I wouldn’t. It is really easy to come off passive aggressive in this situation, so if you do decide to send a gift I would be cautious in how you handle it.