(Closed) Send invites to those who have already declined?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Did you send invitations to those who declined after receiving a Save-the-Date?
    Yes : (18 votes)
    58 %
    No : (8 votes)
    26 %
    It Depends (explain) : (5 votes)
    16 %
  • Post # 3
    1843 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I haven’t had this come up yet BUT if I did, I wouldn’t send an invitation.

    Post # 4
    7152 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    @Phantom: I sent them anyway for the most part. It kind of depended on who the person was.

    Post # 5
    3176 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I sent invites to everyone who was on the invited list no matter what.

    Post # 6
    9029 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I didnt send out Save-The-Date Cards but I did send invites to 2 couples that are out of state and I know they cant make it. I just did it to be nice and I knew they would like to received an invite. But in your case i dont think you have to send them an invite

    Post # 7
    3049 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 1991

    When asking for addresses (for STDs) people said they couldn’t come… so I didn’t send them an STD. But I haven’t heard anyone say after receiving the STD if they can come or not. If I were you I would still send one, unless it’s a real problem with money issues and/or too many people on the guest list already.

    Post # 8
    242 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I probably would just to be nice i guess and make sure they don’t think that just because they can’t come i don’t care about them anymore. And who knows, maybe things will change and they’ll be able to come afterall!!  I have a friend who i don’t see often and she’s already told me she can’t come but I’m still going to send her an invite to let her know i’m still thinking of her.

    Post # 9
    5169 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I would send invites to everyone on my list, unless they have already declined for whatever reason. They informed you so you could save the money that you would have spent on them (thank god for guests like this!) and that includes the invite. Just send it to someone else 🙂

    Post # 10
    3264 posts
    Sugar bee

    Anyone who is sent a STD must receive an invite.  They may have a change in their schedule and be able to attend after all. 

    Post # 11
    724 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I had two people who are definitely not coming (one is going to be in Germany, the other at a conference). I know beyond a shadow of a doubt they will not come, so I won’t be sending them an RSVP. A few other people have been like “Well… we’ll see, I’m not sure what I have going on.” Those people I am sending an invitation to. But honestly, if someone was like “Dude, I’m sorry, but I cannot come” then I wouldn’t send an invitation.

    Post # 12
    674 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    It depends. I sent invites to people who said they wouldn’t be able to make it, but I didn’t send an invite to people who didn’t even bother to give me their address (even after I asked for it TWICE).

    Post # 13
    369 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    @Phantom: I have a few elderly family members, who won’t be able to travel for the wedding because of health issues.  Despite that, I’m sending them invitations so they know I am thinking of them.  Also, I have a few friends who have scheduling problems and have told me they can’t come, but I’m still sending them invitations because, as a few have pointed out, things may change.  If it’s a huge sum of people which would make a significant difference in the cost of the invitations, that’s something to consider.  But if it’s an extra five invites to send out, I’d go ahead and send them.


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