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I would include her, it seems almost unfriendly not to
I would send her an invitation so she can feel more like your friend and also she might take some professional pics of it for you!! 
I would absolutely send one! I think it would be a really nice gesture.
I it really depends, is she there more of a guest and taking pictures? or just to be a photog?
If she is there to just be a photog- No
If she is Both Yes
I'm just bringing my invitation to the wedding with me so that she can photograph it. I don't think it is standard to send the photographer an invitation, since they are hired to be there. I mean, you aren't sending your caterers or florist an invite, right?
As a photographer, I've gotten invitations to probably 80% of the weddings I've shot. I've never thought about it until your post though.
I always bring it with me in my camera bag and take pictures of it on the wedding day.
Additionally, if you're feeding your photographer the same thing as your guests, you'll want them included in the headcount and having an RSVP card back from them (of course you already know they're coming) is helpful in that respect.
Plus, like others have said, the pictures are great to have! I've found that destination wedding invitations are often much more vibrant and fun to shoot.


We were in a similar situation where our main photographer was a friendor. And she just happened to be on leave from work in the weeks we planned the wedding - so whilst she was travelling home to be on leave she would have to travel to London for our wedding. I sent her an invite just because she was a friend. And I think she really appreciated the gesture.
Thanks everyone. I will send her the invite. I am not sure on sending a save the date because I'm short on those. lol. I like the term "friendor", cute.
I was just confused since it's not as clear cut... she's a long time acquaintance, who got really excited when she heard about our wedding and offered to do it cheap cheap if we could cover her airfare. She did couple pics for us way back when FI and I first got together and when we have the wedding she will most likely stay with us unless she prefers her own lodging (we are renting out a huge 3 story house for 20 people)... so yeah, an invite makes sense.
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The photographer who will be shooting our wedding is a long-time acquaintance who has done family portraits for us in the past and who we knew when our kids went to the same private school. She's been out of the wedding photography business for a while after having a baby and is working to get back into the swing of things and re-build her wedding portfolio.
As such, and because we're kinda sora "friends" (though we just recently reconnected on facebook and hadn't been in touch in a few years) she has offered to shoot our wedding for plane fare to the wedding plus a very small and reasonable cash fee.
We are in Texas (she is too) and marrying in Iowa.
Anyway, my question is, do we send her an actual invitation? It's a weird blurry liine between guest and hired professional. I have no issue with and fully expect to cover her meal cost at the reception as well since we are getting such an awesome deal on the photograpy.
What about a save the date?
Thanks!