(Closed) Send shower invites to OOT sister and FSIL's?

posted 5 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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1627 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I would definitely send them invitations to include them, especially if they are in the wedding party.  Personally, I would include a short note along the lines of: “I completely understand if you cannot make the trip in for the shower, but just wanted to include you on the invite list.  Looking forward to seeing you <insert wedding date>!! 🙂

Post # 4
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1513 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

this is one of the reasons i hate the whole “people are gift grabby” mentality. i am sure you are a great and wonderful person. i highly doubt you sister or SILs would think “oh great, she just wants a gift” if they received an invite from you. they would probaby think, rightly so, that you were thinking of them and wanting them to be a part of the special day. personally i would be upset to not be invited to a shower i was in the BP for or that was celebrating my future sister-in-law!

Post # 5
Bee
154 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Schloss Heiligenberg/ Spearfish Canyon Lodge

I really think you should send them an invitation – nothing stings more than to be left out and felt ignored or ostracized. I’d add a handwritten note saying that you’re aware they will probably not make it, but you wanted to make sure that they felt included. An “I’m thinking of you”.

Post # 7
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159 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I would invite them all, for sure. I don’t even think the note is necessary, unless you are really, really concerned. It’s appropriate etiquette to invite them to your shower and your guests will see it as a nice invitation, not as a gift grab!

Post # 8
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7908 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

You should send the invitation. When you have an event like this, you are supposed to invite everyone you would invite if in a perfect world you would invite them if they would be able to come even if you already know they can’t.

Post # 9
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40 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Send the invites. It shows you would like them to be there (even though you know they can’t) and that you’re welcoming them to such a special occasion. They will appreciate it. 

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