Post # 1
A former co-worker text me this past week and asked where FI and I were registered because she’d like to send us a gift. The thing is, she wasn’t invited. I don’t think that is a problem either way as she is just a very sweet woman and lives on the other side of the country, so likely wouldn’t come either way. But I still feel bad about it.
Invitations just went out about two weeks ago. Would it be proper to go ahead and send her an invite? Or just accept the gift without it?
Post # 3
From your wording, it sounds as though she knows she isn’t invited and just wants to give you a wedding gift. I would tell her where you’re registered, and if she does send something, simply thank her graciously and leave it at that.
It seems like these days we struggle far more in dealing with the genuinely kind and generous people in our lives, as though it has become such a rare thing to experience thoughtfulness. It’s a sad thing really, but consider yourself lucky to have to be in this “happy predicament.”
Post # 4
I don’t think you need to send her an invitation- a friend of my mom’s bought me an engagement gift and asked where I was registered but she knows she isn’t invited, some people are just very generous and like to buy gifts!
Post # 5
My supervisor asked me the same thing, and actually told me I shouldn’t feel obligated to invite him because he is my boss, but he would like to get me a gift. I think coworkers can be a unique situation and I agree with PP that sometimes we overthink situations where people are just genuinely being nice and unselfish. If I were you, I would just write her a nice thank you note and let her know how much you appreciate her generous gift, but there’s no need to invite her.
Post # 6
I don’t think you need to send an invite unless you really want to. We had a few gifts for coworkers and friends of the family who weren’t on the invite list. Some people are just generous.