Sending Courtesy Wedding Invites?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I had a similar issue with my family in the UK (I’m in Australia with just my parents and my sister here too). I had my parents call informally about it to see who would want to and will send invites to those who are able to come and not to those who aren’t able to make the flight. 

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Just as an add on, I don’t think there’s any harm in a quick call or email saying you’re excited about your wedding and would love for them to be there, but understand if it’s not possible for them to make the journey, and you’re just about to send out invites so let you know if they’re able to come. It’s probably the easiest way (unless you have hundreds of guests to contact!!) 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

We sent out like… 40 courtesy invites! FI’s family lives in Ireland, and there are a bunch of (mostly elderly) relatives who can’t come to the US for the wedding but would have been offended had they not been invited. We got his mother to make a list of who needed an invite but would not come (so we could do our numbers) and away we went! They knew they couldn’t come, and they knew we knew, but they enjoyed recieving the invitation.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

This can be tough.  I say make a few phonecalls or email letting some people  know you are getting married and of course you don’t expect everyone to fly over and make it.  Just get a feel of what they have to say and if you know they most likely aren’t coming but would like at least receive a wedding invite then go ahead and sent one!

Some people just like the idea that they are invited even though they know they can’t makit it.  It makes them feel special and some people just like looking at them cause they’re pretty and stuff LOL.  I sent a few courtesy invites to far away family members because they wanted a copy and  nice remembrance of the special day to give us good wishes and to show off to their friends that their  niece or whatever is getting married LOL.  It’s just a sweet gesture that counts for some people and a nice way for them to be happy for you.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Kukahiko Estate

We are having a DW and sent out a few “courtesy invites”.  A few people ended up surprising us and coming!

I don’t have everyone’s email so it made sense to just send everyone an invite.  It is an invitation, not an “order” to come 🙂

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I’m sending out several courtesy invitations just to make people feel included (mostly relatives I don’t know that wellbut my mom feels close with) and let them know we’re getting married.  There are many people I don’t expect to come, but I know they’ll appreciate the gesture of being invited, and it means a lot to my parents.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

We sent invites to a lot of extended family (mine in the UK, DH’s across the USA) even when some people told us ahead of time they might not be able to make it because of the travel expenses. But I wanted to let them know they were invited. Most appreciated it and still sent a card/gift to congratulate us on our wedding.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

if they are people that you would like to attend, send them an invitation.  let them make the choice if they wish to attend or not.

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