Sending invites 3 months in advance?

posted 3 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
814 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We sent ours out probably 5 months in advance. Only after that did I realize that normally it’s 6-8 weeks. But a few people we were inviting were from far away and I don’t think 2 months is enough to let people plan for a vacation to another city. /shrug

I say if he wants to, let him.

We had so many people not RSVP until after the deadline, even a week before the wedding, saying they were coming! I can’t imagine not having a good sense of who is coming until a month before the wedding. But maybe that’s just me!

Post # 4
42 posts
  • Wedding: December 2013

We are sending our our invites next week – so almost 3 months in advance. Given the holidays and that most of our guests will need to travel we want to make sure they have enough time to plan. Plus our venue wants our final numbers a month in advance. 

Post # 5
3199 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Groominator:  depends. we had a LOT of out of state guests – like half – and our venue wanted our final headcounts one month before the wedding (so annoying) so i sent ours out 3 months in advance.

Post # 6
9938 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Groominator:  I’m probably going to send ours mid feburary so that will be about 3 months – it all depends on how long it takes me to make them 🙂

We want to get an idea early on who’s coming so we know what to plan for.

Post # 7
43 posts
  • Wedding: October 2013

We sent ours out 3 months in advance, but our wedding is scheduled on a holiday weekend. I’m also a big planner, and have “control issues” sometimes, so I wanted them out and back in in a relatively timely manner.

Post # 8
681 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We sent ours out about 3 1/2 months prior to our wedding.  Our logic was:

(1) we live in the arctic, and it takes our mail longer than usual to get distributed.  Some people got their invites 4 days later, and some didn’t get them for a couple of weeks.  We wanted to build in lots of distribution time for both the invites to reach their destination and for RSVP cards to make it back to us.

(2) a significant portion of our guest list attended from out of town, and we wanted to give everyone lots of time to make arrangements. 

(3) getting married in September meant that we would have sent our invites out in July/August which is when people are on holidays. I wanted to get them into their hands before they were OOT.

I stand by our decision – plus, it got a big project out of the way early! I can’t imagine waiting until 6 weeks before the wedding – eep!

Post # 9
6518 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i sent mine out 11 weeks in advance. 


Post # 10
1243 posts
Bumble bee

Personally (as someone who send invitations to 100+ events a year), I would not UNLESS people lived out of the country.  In general, people still wait to reply, and it increases the chance they will lose or misplace it.

That said, looking at your wedding date, I would try to have them out by early to mid-November, when mail delivery is just starting to get bogged with the Christmas rush, and not too many people are getting swamped with xmas cards yet.

Post # 11
3735 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Groominator:  I’ll be sending mine out 8 weeks prior. Three months is a looooooooong time.

Post # 12
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

We sent ours out 3 months early, and gave a 3 week RSVP window! And we still didn’t finalize numbers until 3 weeks before the wedding!

Post # 13
637 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Groominator:  We’re planning on sending ours out mid-Feb so like 2.5 months in advance. Factor in about a month to track down people for RSVP cards…

Post # 14
1768 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

My fiance wants to send ours out in January…for our JUNE wedding. His rationalization is “that way people know when it is”.

So then I explained to him what the purpose of save the dates is, and he still doesn’t get it, but he at least agrees that we should wait for a more resonable time frame.

Post # 15
1312 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I sent out ours 3 months in advance but we had lots of people outside the country and 2 lists.Invited family first. Then whoever couldn’t attend would leave room to invite others from list B.

It worked for us and it wasn’t in bad taste. We also didn’t send out STD’s.

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