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We sent invitations to people we knew weren't coming and were surprised that some of them did end up coming. You never know who might be able to come.
we sent invites to a bunch of people that we assumed wouldnt come b/c of family demands. 1) some of them did come 2) most of them didnt, but still sent gifts.
I would not invite more people than your budget or venue will allow, just in case.
I'll be sending invites to a few who I know won't be able to make it. A couple can't make it because of health reasons, but I want the mto feel as though I still includeded them. I think it starts boardering on the tacky line if you are just sending them out to random people in hopes of getting a gift, but it doesn't sound like that with you.
If they are close family, definitely, you never know they may try to come. but if they are distant cousins of a cousins cousin, then just send a small announcement.
We sent invites to people who were out of the country or out of state who we knew couldn't come. Even though we already knew in advance they wouldn't be joining for the wedding, we just wanted to send it to include them.
We're sending invites to people who can't come, because we will be thinking of them and wish they could make it.
I agree with the other posts. We have sent some to people we dont' think can make it, but we want them to feel included, and hope they may actually be able to make it!
we sent some to those that we're really close to (e.g his elderly grandpa, friends working/studying overseas that would've really loved to come if they could've). they appreciated it and also kept our invite as a momento -- ours were individually customized for each guest.
so it depends. i say you'd send one to those that you're close to.
i say send the invites as for the receiver, it is nice to be thought of.
but dont send them just so you get gifts - i was a BM about 2yrs ago and the bride did this to all her asian family & friends that wouldnt attend because she knew she would get $ gifts
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I wrestled with that issue too. Some I sent because they invited me to their wedding and I felt I should so the same. A few got invites because I heard they would be upset if they were not invited even though they definitely are not coming because of previous plans.
We're spread out around the country, so our counts are ridiculous. We sent out about 100 invites, which is about 200 people, but we only expect about 75. We couldn't leave all these relatives out even though we know they won't be able to travel to the wedding. So... yeah, it's only tacky if you're fishing for gifts. If you're acknowledging special friends or relatives, go for it.
Yes, especially if they are family. Like pp's said, it is nice to be thought of and lets them know that if they can make it, they are welcome! People may surprise you!
Send them invites. Some etiquette books will say don't, because it can be seen as begging for a gift, but really? If I was expecting to be invited to your wedding -- even if I knew I couldn't come -- I would be hurt if I didn't receive an invitation.
Also, a couple others have put it well: you never know who'll scrape up the money to fly out to celebrate your big day with you! =)
We sent out lots of invites to people we knew weren't actually going to be able to attend. Its the thought and the invite that we wanted to convey, and if the roles were reversed, I've feel a little hurt that I wasnt invited to theirs.
Definately send them the invites. People like to know that you thought of them, even if it's pretty common knowledge that they arent going to make it. If you don't send them one, you will never hear the end of it....trust me.
If they are people you would like to have at your wedding, whether or not you think they can make it, you should send them an invitation. But don't send out way more than your venue can hold, in case by some weird chance, they all end up coming! :-)
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I'm just sending to those I am absolutely close to; immediate family, first cousins and my local friends;
if I haven't talked to them in a year, it means they are not actively in my life
too hard to invited every single person you know or are related to; I just invited those who mattered to me which is my rsvp response rate is so high 40/60 yes's and 3 months to go
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What is the general consensus on this? A large part of my family is back east and I *know* they won't be coming to my wedding (financial issues, etc), should I still send them an invite? It wouldn't be just one, it would be around a dozen or so. I'm very confused about this.