Post # 1
We’re having a private destination ceremony just the two of us and then a very very small (12 person) civil ceremony at City Hall to make things legal.
We’d like to have a big party for friends and family to celebrate a few weeks afterwards but we’re not sure how to give people enough notice!
I’m not sure we’ll have professional pictures back soon enough to send out the wedding announcements/invitations either! We’re definitely sending out really nice wedding announcements with our pro pics at a European castle, but I don’t think two weeks notice is enough, even for just a party.
Would it be totally weird to send out a vague Save the Date with our engagement photos before we leave for Europe with the date of our party, and then send out the formal, photo announcements with the full details a few weeks before?
I’m expecting so much shit from both sides of the family for not doing the grand, $35,000 wedding anyway, this is just going to be the cherry on top of the disaster.
Post # 3
@musician32992: can you say you’re having an engagement party on such and such a date and then when you get back from Europe say ‘fooled you – we’re married! Come celebrate’?
Post # 4
@MsGinkgo: That’s actually a really cute idea! What would you suggest in terms of invites for that? I liked the idea of a vague Save the Date but that seems to blatantly suggest “wedding” instead of “party”.
Post # 5
I don’t have any advice for the invitations (me and DH planned our wedding in a month because of family issues so we didn’t send out our invites until 2 weeks before which I wouldn’t suggest but it worked out for us) anyway to my point, I just wanted to say I’m glad things are looking up for you! I remember you posting on a thread of mine saying how you were waiting for your SO to propose but it looks like everything is working out so congratulations! Good luck with everything (:
Post # 6
@musician32992: While I like the idea of doing the engagement party as a cover, I am more likely to make an effort to attend a wedding or at home reception than an engagement party.
I would send a pretty engagement photo out before you leave and word it as an invite to celebrate your elopement at such and such date. Then, give the guests who come to (or don’t come but you want to have photos) photos of the day at the party and have a slideshow with the whole day documented for them to see.
On the invite, with an e-pic, “Mr. and Mrs. will be tying the knot on Date! Please join us on Reception Date at Random Location to celebrate our marriage, at Such and Such 5:00 pm.”
Post # 7
@MissLibra: I like that a lot, thank you! I guess there’s no point in really making it a secret since everyone is going to know. I suppose people won’t be too bent out of shape about it since no one is coming- We are doing the civil ceremony in the States just because of legal headaches, so I’d like to also hire a photographer for some beautiful family portraits; just my parents and siblings, his parents and siblings, my grandparents and an aunt and uncle!
Post # 8
@musician32992: we are doing something very similar (although we are doing the small legal ceremony and the reception on the same day.) I emailed STDs and only referenced the party, then when we sent paper invites I included a “vip” insert card for those invited to the ceremony to give them details about it.
Post # 9
I agree with a PP- I don’t understand why you’d need to lie or be vague on anything sent out earlier. Just send out invites with full details at a normal time- the marriage announcements can wait until the pics are ready. for the invites to celebration only, you can probably find great wording on other threads.
I probably would not include the date you’re getting married because that’d confuse guests if they receive invites before your marriage date, but they aren’t invited to it (to avoid confusion, use the marriage ceremony date only on the wedding announcements that go out after the ceremony).