Post # 1
Is it weird to send out invites with rsvp’s cards if we have yet to determine our ceremony location and reception venue? The reason we were thinking of doing this is because we are doing a destination wedding in Hawaii and would like to rent a vacation rental that will also allow us to have our ceremony and reception. However, the downside is that they will only allow a max of 30 guests, and we are inviting 50 people. We would rent another venue that will allow more guests, but if only 20 people do end up coming, we will be kicking ourselves for not being able to get our “dream house”. I was thinking the invite could say something like (general wording):
You’re invited to our wedding!
Ceremony and reception location to be determined
Please RSVP by 10/11/2010.
Post # 3
I think it would be a little strange. You could send out save-the-dates with a little note inside to contact you if they are considering being able to come. Also, I don’t know if you meant to put your RSVP date the same as your wedding or not.
Post # 4
Hmm I dunno, it’s still pretty early. You could always send out A list invites to 30 guests earlier than normal and then send out the second wave once you know how many will come to the wedding.
Post # 5
What you want to do is send a Save the Date now so people can mark their calendars for your wedding. It’s really important to finalize your guest list before you send the Save the Dates, because it is rude to send one and then not give them an invite later. Save the dates include the date of the wedding, and the city/location. You can also include a link to your wedding website (if you are using one). Websites are so helpful for destination weddings so you can share travel details with guests.
About 8 weeks before the wedding, you can send another mailing with the actual invites and RSVP cards and details about your wedding location time, ceremony, etc.
Post # 6
I agree, it’s odd to not book your venue until you know how many people are attending. It’s a good practice to only invite as many people as your venue holds. I do agree with the previous poster who suggested save-the-dates, because you’re not required to put the exact venue (we just put the city and state, for the purpose of travel arrangements), but save-the-dates don’t require RSVPs. So that won’t really work for what you want.