Sending save-the-dates tomorrow!! It's so real! (small US destination wedding)

posted 2 years ago in Paper
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Just enjoy the time! Thats so exciting you finally get to send them out!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

SeaOfLove:  Yay! I know this has been a long time coming for you, how exciting! I wouldn’t stress too much about family complaining they aren’t invited. If anyone says anything to your face just explain you want a small intimate wedding with immediate family only. They’ll either get it or get over it haha.

 

Ps, any family member who ‘threatens’ you (I hope not with violence!!) because they have not been invited to your wedding is not family in my books! I know sometimes it is more complicated than that but if they can’t be genuinley happy for you without needing to be at the party then what gives? 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

SeaOfLove:  it definitely sounds like you’ve thought it through and I think most people will understand why you’re having a limited guest list. I think celebrating when you get back is great And should help soften the blow. I’m so excited for you! 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

SeaOfLove:  It’s long been said that weddings and funerals bring out the worst in some people. Having planned 2 weddings over the last two years, for my daughters, you can’t believe the amount of unsolicited advise and suggestions I got from people, who fully believed I should (i.e.) invite who they suggested, etc., without contributing one cent.

There will be people who will complain to you they aren’t invited, they will get butt hurt about it, and maybe hold a grudge for years, but are they the type of people you want at your intimate event anyway? They’re the kind of people who try to suck the life out of you, not celebrate your joy with you.

P.S. BTW, is there any way that you have already confirmed the date and place of the hometown celebrrations? If you sent out the Save the Dates for those, too, around the same time, maybe it would help to lessen any potential negativity?

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

SeaOfLove:  From the moment I got engaged and told my mom I wanted a small wedding, she’s been telling family and friends that we’re planning a “very small wedding,” that way no one got their expectations up that they’d be invited.  So as long as you’ve made it clear that your wedding is very small, I wouldn’t worry about it too much.  Just relax and enjoy this time!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

SeaOfLove:  I hope your mom tells people what you said, too!  If people ask, size of the venue/cost are great excuses, because people can’t argue with that. 

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