Sending shower invitations before wedding invitations?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: When to send?
    Send bridal shower invitations only AFTER wedding invitations have been sent : (6 votes)
    21 %
    It's okay to send shower invitations before wedding invitations : (19 votes)
    68 %
    I like turtles. : (3 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 3
    4441 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

    @MichiganGirl24:  Having received a shower invitation for a wedding I did not think I would ever be invited to, I say send the shower invites at the same time as or after the wedding invitations go out. 

    When I received that shower invitation I still didn’t think I’d be invited to the wedding and was weirded out!

    Post # 4
    3756 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I think this probably happens often and I don’t think it’s weird or bad etiquette to send shower invites before wedding invites go out. I’m not sure if my shower invites have gone out yet or not because my bridal party is planning it as a surprise, but my wedding invites aren’t going out for another couple of weeks. Most everyone that’s invited to the shower knows the wedding is coming and won’t be surprised.

    Post # 6
    6449 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I think the shower invites should be sent out within the next 2 weeks which means your wedding would still be four months away- way too early for wedding invites IMO. I think it often works out this way as the shower is usually a few months before the wedding. I wouldn’t worry about it.

    Post # 9
    92 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I think it is ok for the shower invites to go out first.  My shower is 6 weeks before the wedding and we are sending our wedding invitiations out 8 weeks before the wedding.  That wouldn’t give the people hosting my shower enough time to plan so they have already sent out the shower invites.  Everyone who is invited to the shower received a Save the Date so they already know about the wedding and know that they are invited.

    Post # 10
    3735 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @MichiganGirl24:  We’ve always sent shower invites ahead of wedding invites. Never thought much of it really.

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