Post # 1
Not sure how etiquette bees feel about this..
My shower is April 12th. We have yet to send invitations, but a BM is working on them. How soon before the shower should invites be sent?
Also, wedding is on June 28th. Is it bad, etiquette wise, to send out invitations to the shower before the wedding invitations go out?
Realistically, I think we could have them sent out roughly the same time, or at least within a few weeks of each other.
What do you all think?
ETA: We did not send save the dates as our guest list is 98% local and close family and friends. Most (if not all) of them already know when the wedding is.
Post # 3
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@MichiganGirl24: Having received a shower invitation for a wedding I did not think I would ever be invited to, I say send the shower invites at the same time as or after the wedding invitations go out.
When I received that shower invitation I still didn’t think I’d be invited to the wedding and was weirded out!
Post # 4
I think this probably happens often and I don’t think it’s weird or bad etiquette to send shower invites before wedding invites go out. I’m not sure if my shower invites have gone out yet or not because my bridal party is planning it as a surprise, but my wedding invites aren’t going out for another couple of weeks. Most everyone that’s invited to the shower knows the wedding is coming and won’t be surprised.
Post # 5
@mchitt329: luckily, those who will be invited to the shower definitely know they’re invited to the wedding.
But I still feel a little weird about sending shower invites without first sending wedding invites!
Post # 6
I think the shower invites should be sent out within the next 2 weeks which means your wedding would still be four months away- way too early for wedding invites IMO. I think it often works out this way as the shower is usually a few months before the wedding. I wouldn’t worry about it.
Post # 7
You bring a good point about your bridal party planning the shower. Mine is as well. So, really, the invites aren’t coming from me- and I think it’s understandable if they are sent before wedding invitations are sent, since those are coming from myself and FI.
Post # 8
@MichiganGirl24: Yup I totally agree 🙂
Post # 9
I think it is ok for the shower invites to go out first. My shower is 6 weeks before the wedding and we are sending our wedding invitiations out 8 weeks before the wedding. That wouldn’t give the people hosting my shower enough time to plan so they have already sent out the shower invites. Everyone who is invited to the shower received a Save the Date so they already know about the wedding and know that they are invited.
Post # 10
@MichiganGirl24: We’ve always sent shower invites ahead of wedding invites. Never thought much of it really.