(Closed) Sending STD's before booking venue.

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@MissKPreK:  You definitely need to have the venue booked first.  We also started planning a year and a half early, booked the venue first, and sent out our STD’s about 8 months after planning.

If we had to change the date for whatever reason it would be up to us to notify everyone but they will also be getting formal invitations closer the wedding.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Your wedding is till so far away. I would definitely wait until you have a venue chosen, because you really don’t know what the date will be until you sign a contract. The only way you can be 100% sure on a date is if a certain date is so important to you that you would book any venue, no matter what just because they have your date available.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

We got engaged Christmas day 2011 and getting married June 29, 2013. We just sent out save the dates about a month ago since most of our families will be traveling at least one to two hours away. We dont have an exact venue yet since we are getting married on the beach. 🙂

Our STD is simple..its blue and white with starfish and sand dollars and says “By the salty sea I’ll pledge my love to thee.” “xxx & xxx are getting married June 29, 2013 on the beach. Save the Date! Invitation to follow.”

In our case I was very comfortable sending STDs before having a final venue but otherwise, I would definitely want a venue first..just in case.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Save the date means save the *date* not save the month. Definitely don’t send them until your date is set in stone. Otherwise if you have to change your date (e.g. a really good venue but you need to book one week later) then you’ve got to send a new round out anyway.

If it’s about the excitement, perhaps now is the time to send an engagement announcement and/or engagement photo.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

First of all, your wedding is still so far away!

The earliest I would ever send out STDs is 8 months before. Otherwise everyone is likely to forget about the specifics anyway, thus negating the whole point of a STD.

By then, hopefully you’ll have your venue.

I’d strongly advise *against* sending out the STDs first. What if you send out the STDs, find the venue of your dream, and find out that it’s only available the weekend AFTER when you told everyone your wedding would be?

By then people might have already made travel arrangements and it would be horrible of you to change the date. You could really be limiting your venue choices if you send a STD first.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

My wedding is a year away, and we are planning to send out the STDs at 8 months before. If you did the same, you’d have plenty of time to book a venue by then.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

“We’re on a tight budget and I’m worried about sending STD before booking a venue. What if we have to push it back and change the date??”

Definitely wait until you’ve actually paid/booked your venue.  Your date will depend on the venue’s availability! The above poster is right – it’s save the DATE not save the MONTH.

STDs go out 8-12 months in advance, and are typically used when most of the guests need to fly in, out of town, etc.  They definitely are not required if you are looking to save money.

Every guest who gets an STD card will have to get an invitation, but not vice versa.  So if there is any guest you are on the fence about, you do not have to send an STD.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

You can verbally spread the word with friends and family that you’re shooting for April 2014.

As others have said, you need to have the venue and ceremony space (at a minimum) booked before you send out save the dates. If you don’t know exactly which day in April, you can’t send them out. Also, it’s way too early to send them out — I think you need to wait at least until April, but probably more like summer 2013.

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