Post # 1
I had a fabulous wedding in May 2009 and married life has been great but EXTREMELY busy! The thank you notes are being delivered tomorrow and I am having trouble …First, I wanted to send them out right after the wedding but that did not happen – I feel awful that it has been 7 months already and now the cards are going to be lumped in with the holiday cards everyone is receiving this month – but I don’t think I have a choice if I wait until after the holidays we will be 8 months after the wedding!!! So, I am going to get them out ASAP but should I make mention of how late they are? Something like “married life has been keeping us busy” … and then begin the traditional thank you note language. My Mother-In-Law has assured me that because we are using pics on the card it is more understandable but I feel awful about the whole situation. I want to thank people properly and timely and feel like I messed this one up. Thoughts? Suggestions?
Post # 3
Totally do it now, don’t worry about lumping in with holiday cards. People will appreciate that you did them.
If it’s ultimately going to make you feel more comfortable about the situation and soothe your nerves, mention that married life has proven to be busy, thank them using the “traditional thank you note language” you mentioned, and then go on to wish them a healthy, happy and prosperous New Year.
Post # 4
Better late than never! It doesn’t hurt to say “hey we’ve been so busy, but we really appreciate” blah blah blah instead of “thanks!” If you bought a new house or anything, it doesn’t hurt to bring it up and bring thsoe people into your lives a little bit beyond the wedding. You don’t have to profusely apologize, though…when I write thank you’s i try to avoid anything too generic anyways, so I likely would say something along those lines and then mention how the new gift is being used or something like that…
Post # 5
I don’t know if you want to mention you are busy or that you had to wait to have pics made, because that sort of sounds like an excuse. Instead I would just focus on how awesome married life has been. How about “full and happy” instead of “busy”? You could include an apology if you think the person you’re writing to will be offended by the timing of the card. Otherwise, I think people will just be happy to hear from you.
Post # 6
“Full and happy” is a great wording for it!
Post # 7
I would say something. My cousin got married last October and didn’t send thank you cards out until the summer. It was a big to-do in my family about how late the cards were and how she was not grateful for the gifts, etc. etc. A little note of explanation would definitely make people feel a little better :o)
Post # 8
just send them out asap. i wouldn’t worry about mentioning how late they are or how busy you’ve been. just get them out as fast as you can!
Post # 9
- Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion
I don’t think you messed up. Seven months is a little bit long but not unreasonable. I think it’s better not to make excuses, just send them out!!
Post # 10
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
I would just get them out the door, and the sooner the better. Should you have sent them sooner? Probably, but it’s too late for that now, so a nice, thoughtful thank you note is going to be worth more to people than an excuse for how long it took.
Post # 11
I agree with spaniel—what matters most is that you are thoughtful. A dashed off apology would be just as bad as a dashed off thank you. So “sorry we were busy, thanks for the gift” sounds just as bad as “thanks for the gift.” Whether you apologize or not, just make sure to give the cards a little more effort since they are later than anticipated. Good luck 🙂
Post # 12
I think you can mention some small reasoning, but I think most will appreciate a thank you card! I would not lump them in with your holiday cards. I think a seperate thank you note shows more time and effort and appreciation.
This is a topic that annoys me a lot. I was raised to send thank you cards after getting gifts. It’s really the polite, gracious thing to do. I have been to three weddings in the last few years where no thank you card was ever sent to us. I really think it’s unacceptable. The most recent case of this was a wedding in August. I am hoping that they have just been busy and will send out thank you notes!
Sorry this got long, but I think it’s great that you are sending out the thank you cards!
Post # 13
I think you should send them forth-with, but not mention anything about being busy. I agree with the others that it’s ok to say how happy and whirlwind newlywed life is or something, but just basically saying busy makes it sound like thank you’s aren’t priority (which I know you probably don’t mean to say to them).
Post # 14
I think it would be ok to mention how “full and happy” your married life has been in your thank yous, that way people will read between the lines and understand. Also, I agree with other people you should be sure to make your thank you notes more personal since they are a little late.
Post # 15
Thank you everyone for your great advice. I do not want to sound like I am making excuses in the thank you note and would definitely not say “busy” but at the same time I am concerned with not seeming appreciative since they are late I do not want them to seem like an afterthought or something I had to do out of obligation. It is important to me that the thank yous be expressive of how grateful we are and I want people to know that being at our wedding and/or the gift was greatly appreciated. I like the suggestion of mentioing that married life has been full and happy. I always personalize my cards and make them very specific to the receiver and am usually timely with sending them out. There was a problem with the pictures for the cards and unfortunately it was not resolved until this month and then we had to wait for printing and shipping (all expedited). I will be sending them out asap. By next week I plan to have all 150 sent out! Ambitious but necessary at this point! Also, I was never going to lump them in with my holiday card (jaylii9) I was upset that people would be receiving them at the same time as other holiday cards,
Post # 16
better late than never! i still haven’t received a thank you for my friends wedding two years ago… after he asked me three times if he sent one to me yet! is it too late to hold out hope for a card? 😉