Sensible or Sentimental? **Kinda RANTY**

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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716 posts
Busy bee

I don’t think so.  Is it a nice gesture to try to pay off any loans or debts?  Yes.  Is it romantic?  No.  Sometimes, you need some indulgence, especially after a trying period in your life.  Hopefully your mom clues Mr. 99 in and he spoils you a bit ^_^

Post # 4
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1466 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@Nona99:  I don’t know the whole situation, so it’s hard for me to say. I think it might be a little over the top… again I don’t know your situation… but if money has been hard to come by and now things are okay I wouldn’t just go spend all the money! But I think asking for a slightly less expensive version of this would be fine (let’s say, you have everything you mentioned here except the suite is moderately expensive instead of ridiculously expensive) and if you really want that diamond now I don’t know that he’d have the money left over for all the rest of these things, but again, I don’t know the whole situation, honestly I have no clue what the situation is. 

Post # 5
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6407 posts
Bee Keeper

I think sentimental is sensible.

I’m not really into changing engagement rings or re-enacting proposals, myself. I find it is better to fully appreciate it for what it was and is, and look forward, not back. I don’t like to edit history. It is meaningful because it is the actual thing. JMO.

Post # 8
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1466 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@Nona99:  Okay well then yeah I think it’s perfectly reasonable to ask for! As I said before, I had no clue what the actual situation was.

Post # 9
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5421 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

@Nona99:  I don’t think you’re being demanding. If you’d ask me a couple of years ago, my answer may have been different; but, now I feel differently.

I’ve recently upgraded my ring: it’s the exact same design, but higher quality. I never in a million years thought I would do that, but, I did; and I love it. OH wants to make an occasion of giving me the ring; I think partly because he wants it to have it’s own sentimental value, and partly because he wants to do more of a traditional proposal (I LOVED his proposal, I think it’s a bloody brilliant story, but, I kind of ruined it for him lol and I’m not sure he appreciates that!)

So, I would speak to him; particularly if an upgrade was always on the cards. Just be careful how you approach it; you know him, so I’m sure you’ll know how to broach the subject.

Post # 12
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9224 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Nona99:   Fabulous!  I just got back – read the whole thing – but now my response isn’t needed.  YAY for you!  🙂   Can’t wait to see your new ring!

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