(Closed) Sensitive? Or Catty?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

she’s either jealous or not a very good friend. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

Agreed. Just tell her to shut up. She’s being petty.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I agree with the jealousy thing.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper

Just let the comments roll off your back. She’s trying to make you feel bad for your choices, and you shouldn’t have to. Next time she says something, just let her know that it’s your wedding, and this is the way you want things to be. That her negative comments aren’t helping things, and in fact, they’re hurtful. I suspect that if she’s a good friend – she’ll stop with the comments when she finds out how hurtful they are. If she doesn’t stop, then I’d definitely question how good of a friend she really is.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would lean towards catty.  Or just SUPER opinionated and doesn’t realize she’s hurting your feelings by disagreeing with your choices :/

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

How good of a friend is she and how are you in real life (non wedding planning)
I know that if I tried to have a super formal black tie affair my friends would say WTF!? Because we just aren’t those kind of people. I don’t want to pretend I’m someone I am not. Do you attend or throw formal parties often?

If so, then perhaps she’s just jealous that she isn’t having a wedding like yours and people may talk about yours more. Maybe. Who knows.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

she is being incredibly petty…just ignore it (I know its all easier said then done).

 

The bi**h in me woudl respond with a “ohh and your *colour* wedding with *whatever* tuxes are so fun right??!” but its always best to be the bigger person….i guess Tongue out

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Sounds like she’s trying to justify her own choices by putting down yours.

Some people just prefer more relaxed, less traditional weddings. Of course it’s still possible to have fun and be comfortable at a more formal wedding. And you’ll probably have some amazing pictures.

Don’t worry about it.

Post # 13
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Helper bee

K, first of all, I love dressing up and consider a fancy, elegant affair to be fun. She’s entitled to her opinion, but her opinion is not the ONLY opinion out there. 

Second, I’m going to have to agree with the ones that pegged her as the jealous type. The people that brag about how great and awesome their life is doth protest too much, in my opinion… they’re usually trying to compensate for the fact that things AREN’T perfect. 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

It’s just a matter of different tastes, and she wants hers to be right. We had a very classy elegant wedding too, but it’s because it was right for us. Everytime I see brides and their beach/picnic/bbq weddings I find a tinge of jealousy, but I was more than happy with ours. It wouldn’t have been the same if it had been a casual affair. People have a natural tendency to want the best of both worlds.

Maybe she can’t afford a black tie wedding, and is trying to make look as though she’s choosing to have a casual affair, even though she wishes she was planning yours? Maybe you talking about yours is just making her heart break for what she wishes she could have? I’d lay off the wedding talk for a bit, in any case.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

She is for sure insecure, whether it be about herself, her relationship or her wedding, who knows, but who cares. I would refrain from discussing wedding stuff with her if she is making you feel bad about your wedding, if she asks questions tell her your trying to keep some things a surprise. Most importantly, ignore her, her wedding will be uniquely hers and yours will be uniquely yours, I’m sure your wedding will beautiful and fun to you and your FI and thats what matters (I’m sure it will be beautiful and fun to everyone else to), she may say negative things after the wedding too, but your not in competition (I think she needs this reminder more than you!) and if you love your wedding and your FI who cares what she says or does!

Post # 16
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Bumble Beekeeper

It kind of just sounds like she’s being a bitch, honestly. I dont know about jealousy though.

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