(Closed) Sensitive Wedding Invite questions

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I know you said you would like to have the groom’s dad’s name on there, but I would just leave it off. I don’t see this as a snub of any sort. You’re listing your parents on the invitation because they are paying for, and therefore hosting, the event. So they’re the ones doing the inviting. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Fi’s name son of fi dadand mom

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I think you would leave off his mom, but honestly, I really don’t know.  I think it’s sweet of you to include him though.  

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper

You could say “Son of Mr. John Smith and the late Mrs. Jane Smith.” Including their names on the invitation is a great way to honor his parents! And when you say “son of,” you’re not suggesting that his parents are hosting — you just want them to be recognized.

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

why not word it to say…..

John, son of James and the late Mary Doe

It might seem a bit long on the invite, but at least you won’t feel like you were leaving out the mom, when she did all the hard work of giving birth lol.

Post # 8
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Helper bee

It is very acceptable to say “FI’s name, son of Mr. FI’s dad’s name and the late FI’s mother’s name”.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

we made ours simple and said.. “Together with their Families…..”

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

My parents are paying and hosting, so we are listing them in the traditional way first on the invite. His parents are hosting the rehearsal dinner and have offered us a monetary gift to help with wedding expenses. We are putting them on the invite too, but in such a manner that it does not indicate that they are hosting (by requesting the honor of your presence, etc.)


Mr. and Mrs. Bride Family

request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter

SWEET CRACKERS

to

HOT AWESOME DUDE

son of Mr. and Mrs. Groom Family

date time, place


I don’t know if I’d put “the late Mrs.” on an invitation, personally. It sounds a little sad to me :o( If your fiance’s father has not remarried, then there is no confusion about WHICH Mrs. it is (like if there was a stepmom). I sometimes see the specifier “the late Mrs.” in programs or something but I don’t think I have seen it on an invitation.

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I like “son of Mr and Mrs.” Putting the “late Mrs.” on there will be kind of sad, but then again do you want people asking where Mrs. FI is?

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I totally agree with the ‘and the late Mrs. Groom Mom’ line.

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2007

If you have decided to your FI dad’s name on the invite, why do you ask his dad how he wants his name stated…Mr. & Mrs XX, just Mr. XX, or any other way you can think of.  Asking him will insure he is not upset with the wording, and included in a decision, regardless of if he is paying or not.

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