Post # 1
I really like the traditional wording of wedding invitations where the bride’s parents are listed as hosts, also, my parents are basically paying for most of the wedding, so it just makes sense. My fiance’s father is not paying for anything, due to financial constraints, but I would still like to have his name on the invite so as not to hurt any feelings. However, I’m not sure how to do this though.
I would like to say, “Groom’s name, son of…” but his mother has passed away, so I don’t know if it is odd to say “Mr. and Mrs. Father-In-Law’s name”. I mean, he is her son, but I don’t know if people will find it odd.
What do you think I should do?
Post # 3
I know you said you would like to have the groom’s dad’s name on there, but I would just leave it off. I don’t see this as a snub of any sort. You’re listing your parents on the invitation because they are paying for, and therefore hosting, the event. So they’re the ones doing the inviting.
Post # 4
Fi’s name son of fi dadand mom
Post # 5
I think you would leave off his mom, but honestly, I really don’t know. I think it’s sweet of you to include him though.
Post # 6
You could say “Son of Mr. John Smith and the late Mrs. Jane Smith.” Including their names on the invitation is a great way to honor his parents! And when you say “son of,” you’re not suggesting that his parents are hosting — you just want them to be recognized.
Post # 7
why not word it to say…..
John, son of James and the late Mary Doe
It might seem a bit long on the invite, but at least you won’t feel like you were leaving out the mom, when she did all the hard work of giving birth lol.
Post # 8
It is very acceptable to say “FI’s name, son of Mr. FI’s dad’s name and the late FI’s mother’s name”.
Post # 9
we made ours simple and said.. “Together with their Families…..”
Post # 10
My parents are paying and hosting, so we are listing them in the traditional way first on the invite. His parents are hosting the rehearsal dinner and have offered us a monetary gift to help with wedding expenses. We are putting them on the invite too, but in such a manner that it does not indicate that they are hosting (by requesting the honor of your presence, etc.)
Mr. and Mrs. Bride Family
request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter
HOT AWESOME DUDE
son of Mr. and Mrs. Groom Family
date time, place
I don’t know if I’d put “the late Mrs.” on an invitation, personally. It sounds a little sad to me :o( If your fiance’s father has not remarried, then there is no confusion about WHICH Mrs. it is (like if there was a stepmom). I sometimes see the specifier “the late Mrs.” in programs or something but I don’t think I have seen it on an invitation.
Post # 11
Thank you everyone for your input! I think we are going with “the late Mrs.” as many people who are attending the wedding are either from my extended family, and wouldn’t necessarily know that his mother had passed away, and I don’t want anyone to ask where she is that day.
And, like @karleyrap12 said, she did all that hard work giving birth and raising him, I wouldn’t want to leave her out! I also think it would mean a lot to him to have her name on the invitation.
Post # 12
I like “son of Mr and Mrs.” Putting the “late Mrs.” on there will be kind of sad, but then again do you want people asking where Mrs. FI is?
Post # 13
@kag5079 I wanted to include “late” because I was afraid some of our guests would ask where she is, as it is, some closer friends and family forget all the time and have said some things relating to the wedding that could have been awkward if he was there.
Post # 14
I totally agree with the ‘and the late Mrs. Groom Mom’ line.
Post # 15
If you have decided to your FI dad’s name on the invite, why do you ask his dad how he wants his name stated…Mr. & Mrs XX, just Mr. XX, or any other way you can think of. Asking him will insure he is not upset with the wording, and included in a decision, regardless of if he is paying or not.
Post # 16
@MommyofTwo: It was very important to my FI to have his mom’s name on there, so even if his dad didn’t want it on there, not having it is not an option. Additionally, his dad hasn’t been super responsive to any wedding stuff (we told him we flew to New York and booked a venue, he asked how the weather was in New York), so I don’t think he will have an opinion either way.
@WillyNilly: Thank you!