(Closed) sent STD to groomsman’s gf, and they broke up…

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Do we have to send one to the groomsman's ex?
    Yes, because you sent her an STD : (1 votes)
    5 %
    No, circumstances have changed : (15 votes)
    79 %
    Etiquette says you have to, but if I were you I wouldn't send one! : (3 votes)
    16 %
  • Post # 3
    4771 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Do you plan on hanging out with her ever again?  If not than don’t invite her.

    Post # 4
    10851 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I wouldn’t invite her. I’m sure she’d feel just as awkward as you would!

    Post # 5
    360 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I know it’s an odd situation since you sent the STD, but I would not send an invite. You say she doesn’t live nearby, wouldn’t know anyone and that you never spend time with just her…assuming they don’t get back together, will you be likely to ever see her again? It sounds like she is basically not a part of you life anymore, so I don’t think you have to invite her (and I really don’t think you should…it could lead to a seriously awkward situation if it was a bad break-up) and I’m sure she won’t think anything of it or expect an invitation now that they broke up. 

    Post # 8
    1944 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I would gather you only sent her an invite bc she was K’s girlfriend. You were not friends before, so you do not have to invite her. This happened to me, we broke up 2 mths before a friends wedding and invitations went out before people really knew we broke up. One I had no desire to go, the wedding was in DC, I was in Ohio and while I loved my Ex’s friends and we were close, I did not wish to be in the same room with him. I only knew them through him and since I am no longer with him, I felt it would have been ackward for some and disrespectful for me to accept their invitation since they did not know we’d broken up when they were mailed. I only asked and the gracefully agreed, for my money back for the hotel I paid for and my ex paid me back my airfare. Funny side note, that was 5 yrs ago and his friends still talk to me but don’t have a relationship with him!

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