(Closed) Sent the save the dates too early – help!!

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2295 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I would email/call all the out of country/continent people now and hold off until about 4 or 5 months to send the invites. The problem with sending some invites early (which seems like a good option otherwise) is that people who you DIDN’T send to early hear about it and are left wondering when their invitation is coming or if they were left out.

Post # 4
2336 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

It’s fine that you sent Save-The-Date Cards early.

Just wait until 2-3 months out to send invitations. If you send them out this soon, people are going to completely forget to RSVP, because they’ll immediately go, ‘oh wow I have so much time, I don’t have to worry about this.’ And then they’ll set it aside and completely forget about it.

Things happen as well, and people who you would invite today may not be extremely close to you in eight months. Sometimes you drift apart.

Is there a reason your parents are so opposed to a wedding website? They are completely free, extremely easy to set up, and make everything so much easier on everyone.

Post # 5
9217 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

@ekmwarren:  Why do they care about a wedding website?  That is so weird.  They’re incredibly handy and waaaaay easier on your guests.  Maybe you should just overrule them.

I’d wait til ~4 months out for your invites, since people already know the date.

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