Sentimental Items – What to do?

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: How I Deal With Sentimental Items...
    Keep it! : (9 votes)
    21 %
    Toss it! : (3 votes)
    7 %
    Donate! : (21 votes)
    49 %
    Put it in the corner and pretend I don't see it! : (6 votes)
    14 %
    Try to find a use for it! : (2 votes)
    5 %
    Who cares? : (2 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I think if you are faced with a whole bag of sentimental items that are very similar (e.g. a whole pile of stuffed animals), then you should just pick one or two and keep those and donate/toss the rest. It is usually when you are keeping dozens and dozens that it becomes a hoarding problem.

    Conversely, if you must keep the entire collection, you can make a pact that you have to toss away equal quantities of something else. For example, we have friends who makes their daughter swap out toys. When she gets a new toy, she has to donate an old one. Ideally, you are doing an equal swap in terms of space. It wouldn’t work as well if you were hoarding giant china dolls and swapping out baseball cards instead since one is clearly a lot bigger than the other.

    Post # 4
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    2642 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Hahaha.  I actually have a bag of stuffed animals from when I was a little girl.  I used to have TONS of stuffed animals, but I narrowed it down to the ones that had meaning (gifts from certain friends or places) and donated the rest.  I’ve kept them either in a closet or basement and plan to keep them and give them to my kids.

    95% of the time I’ll keep things that have some meaning to me.  But I try and find a useful or creative way to keep them.  For instance, my mom made me a quilt from all of my old high school sprots sweatshirts and jerseys.  I’ve mixed in old cards with photo albums.  My bookshelf is accented with little knick-knacks I’ve been given or picked up along the way.

    My parents also have a large box for each of their kids filled with random stuff such as old school reports, drawings, cards, my casts from when I broke my finger and arm, little projects, etc.  I think it’s good to have a box of stuff like that.

    Post # 5
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    926 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I have two large garbage bags full of stuffed animals, too!  Those are the ones I saved after weeding through them and donating most.  I’m saving them for my children one day.  If they don’t want them, then I’ll donate them.  I’m not a keeper of things and can’t stand clutter, so I don’t usually have this problem.  FI does though.  He has boxes in our basement of just stuff, that one day hopefully soon we can go through them and get rid of a lot.  None of it is sentimental, just “junk.” I do still have to go through my parents attic and get the stuff I want to keep or pass down.  My mom has been sorting and weeding out most of it since we’ve moved out of the house.  I couldn’t imagine having to do that.

    Post # 6
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    3889 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    If you’re having a hard time with donating because you’re too emotionally attached, you can always see if your area has a freecycle chapter, http://freecycle.org.  It’s like basically craigslist but everything is free.  There are different rules and etiquette for each local group so make sure you read their T&C before posting, but most allow you to offer items as gifts to others, and to set some reasonable conditions on those offers. You could offer the stuffed animals and ask that interested parties tell you the ages of their kids, then choose the family with the most kids (and the highest chance that the stuffed animals will be well appreciated), or if you’ve got a specific attachment to a stuffed turtle, post that you’re making a gift to a kid who really loves turtles only. If it’s too-small work clothes you’re looking to gift on, you could post an offer asking that only young women just getting started in their careers reply.  It sometimes helps to let go if we know these things are going to good homes.

     

    Post # 8
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    491 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2015

    I moved all of my necessary things into my boyfriend’s house but the room I had at my Mona’s house is still housing all of the things I don’t really need but am having a hard time getting rid of. Every time I go over to finish sorting things, I just end up moving things around the room before I leave. I really need to get the rest of my stuff out but I can’t bring myself to do it.

    Post # 9
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2015

    @Twyla_Smith:  I have this problem too! Luckily, my dad is fine for now with me leaving my room pretty much as it was when I moved out. That can’t last forever, though, and I have no idea what I’ll do with all my old stuff!

    Post # 10
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    441 posts
    Helper bee

    I keep a certain percentage of sentimental items and toss the rest. I can really only appreciate so many sentimental items anyway.

    Example: If I have one stuffed animal, I can put it on a shelf or something and I’ll see it regularly and smile. But if I have twenty, they’ll all be in a bag in the basement and I’ll never look at any of them.

    So I find I can usually cut down the sentimental items by sticking to just one or a few from each category.

    Post # 11
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    926 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @Twyla_Smith No not the baby blanket!!  I know mine is tucked away safely in a cute box.  I hope you hang on to his.  I think it’s special.

    @RunsWithBears I can second the quilt… my mom took all my high school sports tshirts and jerseys and made a lovely quilt out of them.  The only thing is, I don’t know what to do with it.  It’s not my style to hang a tapestry, but it’s so busy with colors and patterns and it’s heavy, I don’t want to put it on a bed.  What did you do with yours?

    Post # 12
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @GeorgiaBride5:  I use it as an every day blanket in my living room.  It’s pretty much my go-to blanket when I want to snuggle up on the couch.

    Post # 13
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    13168 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Things that are truely sentimental, I keep.  But just because something is from my childhood (like a stuffed animal) doesn’t actually make is sentimental.  I’d donate them so someone else could get enjoyment out of them.

    Post # 16
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    2913 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

    Oh my god FI and have been having so many arguments lately about this! He wants me to throw like 90% of my sentimental items away. Can’t even deal.

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