Post # 1
My fiance has two friends (both groomsmen) that still live at home and we are inviting both their parents. Do I need to send two separate invitations to the same household for both the friend and their parents??
Our invitations are running about $5 or so and I really don’t want to spend the extra money to send the exact same invite to the same household? Can I just address the invite as so:
Mr. and Mrs. John Smith
Mark Smith and Guest
What’s the appropriate etiqutte?? Thanks for the help : )
Post # 3
Appropriate? Send one to each adult, even if they live in the same household.
What I did? Send one to the whole house and save a little money!
Post # 4
@savealife: This is pretty much exactly what I did too! I am clearly not an etiquette follower lol.
Post # 5
@savealife: that’s what I planned to do because to be honest his friends won’t care about getting an invite personally. I think it’s just a waste to send two of the same invite to the same house. I’ll be likely if his friends even RSVP! lol But I saw other peopel saying it’s rude not to send them personally an invite so I figured I would ask! Thanks : )
Post # 6
Each single adult (i.e. children 18 and older) should get his or her own invitation. Obviously, a couple would only need one. In your example, you would send one to the parents and one to the adult son residing with his parents.
(For the record, however, I did not know this rule until after I joined Weddingbee, and I listed one of my friend’s children who is over the age of 18 on the same invitation with her parents and younger siblings.)
Post # 7
They will not care. Is it proper etiquette? Probably not. What will happen to the one invitation you send? It will go in the trash, so dont send two.
Post # 9
I did this, and then only got one RSVP that covered both invitations sent to the same house. Grr. Send them one. However, I wouldn’t address the envelope the typical way (parents on top, kids on second line). Instead, address it to the “So-and-so family”.
Post # 10
I send separate invitations in the one envelope. but you don’t have to… do what you like! its better to keep spares for your older relatives because I have since learned that old ladies have a bit of an obsession with keeping wedding invitations and if they lose theirs for it gets dirty, they will ask for another one! grrrrrr….
Post # 11
My Aunt and Uncle had 4 adult children living with them at the time of our wedding- no freaking way was I was sending 5 invitations to their house. Ettiquitte be damned.
Post # 12
Just send one.
I would consider this one of those etiquette “suggestions” rather than hard rules.
Post # 13
If they were the kind who would keep it for like a scrapbook I would get it, but if they live together no one is going to hang two of the same invitation on their fridge. It seems wasteful to.me!
Post # 14
I would only send one. I think it’s excessively persnickety to demand separate invitations, and I doubt an adult who’s still living with their parents is going to call you out for it.
Post # 15
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
@savealife: haha exactly! I have to squeeze 5 names onto one!
Post # 16
It depends. As someone who has been an adult living at home, I would have really appreciated getting my own invitation but definitely could understand someone not wanting to send several invitations to one address. So, if it’s not too much hassle I’d send two, but if it is then just send one.