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my sis did that! she was in dc, he was in ri, planning a wedding in asia. i guess if the wedding's long distance anyway, it's not a huge difference if you're not both together. they did see each other a couple of times a month tho.
We're an hour apart, and I thought that was hard! I can't even imagine being across the country. :-/
We, too, are about an hour apart. And bussssyyy on top of that, so yeah, plenty of not being together!
We did long distance for over 3 years. When we finally were in the same city, I swore we would never do that again. Ha! Now we're about 3.5 hours apart for the last 4 months of our engagement. It's almost been a month since he moved down to start school. So far it's been ok - it helps to know that this is the last seperation and at the end of it is a marriage!
OMG, I am so glad I'm not alone!
My better half lives in Washington DC and I'm living in China (I work here). Our long distance relationship is sooo hard!! The distance has become a factor in making decisions for us, which I'm torn over - it's necessary if we want to be together, but I still hate that some arbitrary point dictates our behavior.
My work contract is keeping me here and I'm only supposed to take a year off to get married, but we might ask for an exception for 2 years just so we can spend some time together before the wedding.
I've been on that other wedding website a lot lately, and looked around for other distance brides there, and can't seem to find anyone. Glad to have found a little more understanding (and less pristine) community. :)
My fiance is in Afgahnistan for a year since March so yeah we are pretty seperate haha. It makes planning a wedding not as fun, but he wouldn't be THAT involved even if he was here.
It is hard, but hopefully we come out stronger because of it. Though I can't wait until December when he gets his mid tour leave!
@daydream: his work (the military) has dictated that I have to move to be with him. I'm finally moving to be with him...only took 2.5 years! I'm here if you ever want someone to vent to :)
Jesstagirl: I will be moving to be with my FI when he gets back too more than likely, school permitting. I haven't had a chance to live with him either yet. :(
Well, compared to some of you with FH's and DH's in the military, mine's not really so bad but he's in Dallas and I'm in NYC...It will only be 2.5 months apart when he comes home but still sux big time...We did long-distance Miami to New York for 2 years before this so kinda used to it :(
We spent the first 5 months of being engaged with me in Europe, and this upcoming year we'll be at our respective colleges in two different states - much like the last few years of our relationship. I'm really looking forward to actually living together! We're getting married where he goes to school though, so at least when I go there for wedding stuff I'll also be visiting him. :-)
Okay, so besides the obvious frustrations of planning from far away (we do a lot of Skype video convos and look at stuff online together), how do you keep your relationship strong while apart? Any killer tips anyone can offer?
We're working through a list of pre-marital counseling questions our faith community was able to hook us up with, and that's led to a lot of REALLY GREAT conversations, since the phone can be hard for good depth, but I miss just being with him!
My fiance is on deployment in Kosovo. It's been 8.5 months now - 3 to go. While it's a little bit of a challenge to plan a wedding without him, it give me something to do. My mom ends up going to vendors with me. It's not the same, but I don't really have any other choice. Hang in there!
We're 2 hours apart and I thought that was bad! We're separated during the school year, but get to spend the summers together, which is nice. We got a lot of planning done so I won't be as stressed at the end of next semester since I graduate less than a month before the wedding. It just sucks right now since I just moved back on Saturday and we'd gotten used to being together every day. But I don't have much to complain about after seeing some of these stories!!
I agree with the statment that planning a wedding is a good distraction even though it sucks with him being gone.
I actually haven't heard from my fiance in almost 2 weeks. I'm at the point where I am starting to worry (more than normal worrying). :(
@Daydream: We make sure we talk EVERY. DAY. (with the exception of when he's deployed, obviously!). I'm attached to my cell phone, because we send texts throughout the day. I sometimes get made fun of it from my friends, but I don't really care anymore. We also make sure we talk on the phone each night, even if it's just to say hello. Early in our relationship we asked each other every question you can think of. For the really awkward ones we'd preface it and say, "okay, awkward question time!"
We live together now, but we're going to be separated for 6 months right up until the wedding. My fiance is hiking the Appalachian trail, and he's hiking *to* the wedding location, so I'll probably only see him once in the 6 months before the wedding. It'll definitely be tough to wrap up the last minute details without his input!
Yes! We are in the same plane! =) May I ask where in New Mexico you are? I'm in west Texas and he's in Mississippi. Ugh!
Us too. We're married and still apart =].
been doing the LDR thing since August 2006.
This is a good post to remind me how lucky I am! I left my job and apartment to move in with my fiancé a few months ago after living about an hour apart for just over a year. Only problem is he works on a detail on the other side of the state during the week! Lame. But after the wedding (next month!) he'll be home and we can finally live in the same place. Ahhhh. That will be nice.
We aren't long distance but it feels like it when he's gone 3-4 days out of the week in who knows where. I quit trying to keep up with what city he is flying to everyday. I don't know how I'll do things when we have a family. It's hard now getting things around the house done by myself. Agghh!
I know I can't complain. I admire those of you who's family are overseas!
Lilypad: I'm in Albuquerque!
I just counted and it'll be 50 days till I see him again, but then there's a daunting three-month deployment looming over us, so who knows if that'll happen. I need to get the tuxes taken care of, so I'm thinking of having my brother "pinch hit" for my fiance and pick them out with me. Anyone else having fiance "stand ins"?
Long distance engagement here too - well almost. In about 4 weeks he's leaving Ireland (where we live) and going with the Irish military to Chad in sub-Saharan Africa on a humanitarian mission with the United Nations. He'll be gone just over four months and will be back about 2 months before the wedding. He has an opinion on lots of wedding-related things so I'm trying to run everything that has to be done before he leaves by him so he can have a say but whatever doesn't get addressed now will either be decided by me and him over email/Skype or just by me. We're hoping to go look for wedding bands this weekend so that he can pick out what he wants just in case we get something custom that would never be ready after he gets back.
I am really really really dreading the four + months he'll be gone - I am hopeful it will go by quickly but between worrying about him in the desert and just missing him day to day I think it's going to be pretty rough. Trying not to think about it! And wishing I were going to be home in Connecticut for the next four months!!!
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Just wondering if anyone else is separated from their fiance during the engagement in a long distance relationship. I'm in New Mexico and my fiance is in Geogia and will be deployed for three months right before the wedding.
Anyone else doing a lot of the planning without their fiance even being there (literally)?