(Closed) Separated During Engagement?

posted 9 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

my sis did that! she was in dc, he was in ri, planning a wedding in asia. i guess if the wedding’s long distance anyway, it’s not a huge difference if you’re not both together. they did see each other a couple of times a month tho.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

We’re an hour apart, and I thought that was hard! I can’t even imagine being across the country. :-/

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We, too, are about an hour apart. And bussssyyy on top of that, so yeah, plenty of not being together!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2010 - Trinity Presbyterian Church/Harrison Opera House

We did long distance for over 3 years.  When we finally were in the same city, I swore we would never do that again.  Ha!  Now we’re about 3.5 hours apart for the last 4 months of our engagement.  It’s almost been a month since he moved down to start school.  So far it’s been ok – it helps to know that this is the last seperation and at the end of it is a marriage!

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper

OMG, I am so glad I’m not alone!

My better half lives in Washington DC and I’m living in China (I work here). Our long distance relationship is sooo hard!! The distance has become a factor in making decisions for us, which I’m torn over – it’s necessary if we want to be together, but I still hate that some arbitrary point dictates our behavior.

My work contract is keeping me here and I’m only supposed to take a year off to get married, but we might ask for an exception for 2 years just so we can spend some time together before the wedding.

I’ve been on that other wedding website a lot lately, and looked around for other distance brides there, and can’t seem to find anyone. Glad to have found a little more understanding (and less pristine) community. πŸ™‚

Post # 8
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Helper bee

My fiance is in Afgahnistan for a year since March so yeah we are pretty seperate haha. It makes planning a wedding not as fun, but he wouldn’t be THAT involved even if he was here.

It is hard, but hopefully we come out stronger because of it. Though I can’t wait until December when he gets his mid tour leave!

Post # 10
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Helper bee

Jesstagirl: I will be moving to be with my FI when he gets back too more than likely, school permitting. I haven’t had a chance to live with him either yet. πŸ™

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School

Well, compared to some of you with FH’s and DH’s in the military, mine’s not really so bad but he’s in Dallas and I’m in NYC…It will only be 2.5 months apart when he comes home but still sux big time…We did long-distance Miami to New York for 2 years before this so kinda used to it πŸ™

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We spent the first 5 months of being engaged with me in Europe, and this upcoming year we’ll be at our respective colleges in two different states – much like the last few years of our relationship. I’m really looking forward to actually living together! We’re getting married where he goes to school though, so at least when I go there for wedding stuff I’ll also be visiting him. πŸ™‚

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper

Okay, so besides the obvious frustrations of planning from far away (we do a lot of Skype video convos and look at stuff online together), how do you keep your relationship strong while apart? Any killer tips anyone can offer?

We’re working through a list of pre-marital counseling questions our faith community was able to hook us up with, and that’s led to a lot of REALLY GREAT conversations, since the phone can be hard for good depth, but I miss just being with him!

Post # 14
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Blushing bee

My fiance is on deployment in Kosovo. It’s been 8.5 months now – 3 to go. While it’s a little bit of a challenge to plan a wedding without him, it give me something to do. My mom ends up going to vendors with me. It’s not the same, but I don’t really have any other choice. Hang in there!

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We’re 2 hours apart and I thought that was bad! We’re separated during the school year, but get to spend the summers together, which is nice. We got a lot of planning done so I won’t be as stressed at the end of next semester since I graduate less than a month before the wedding. It just sucks right now since I just moved back on Saturday and we’d gotten used to being together every day. But I don’t have much to complain about after seeing some of these stories!!

Post # 16
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Helper bee

I agree with the statment that planning a wedding is a good distraction even though it sucks with him being gone.

I actually haven’t heard from my fiance in almost 2 weeks. I’m at the point where I am starting to worry (more than normal worrying). πŸ™

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