Post # 1
Question for you. My FILs separated about a year ago (before we were engaged). FMIL moved out of FI’s childhood home and got an apartment. They are currently “dating” and may or may not get back together. They are civil and seem not to mind being around each other, but I’m curious as to how we should seat them at the reception, since they are still married and possibly working it out. I am fairly close with my FMIL, should I ask her what she thinks? I think this is a conversation FI should have with her/them, but thinking about them getting divorced upsets him too much, so I don’t think he will bring it up with them. Also, he’s an only child so I have no siblings to bounce this off of. Suggestions?
Post # 3
I would talk to them about it. Tell them that you want to make sure they enjoy themselves at the wedding and want to know if they are comfortable being seated together.
Post # 4
@dms0622: If you’re comfortable with having that talk with your FMIL, that would be the best way to go. It takes the guess work out of it, and by going with the seating arrangement on which they agree, you wouldn’t offend either one. Good luck!
Post # 5
@dms0622: Someone needs to talk to them both. If you’re only close enough to talk to FMIL, your fiance needs to talk to FFIL. He says it upsets him… well I can guarantee it’s a lot more upsetting for them. (And I speak from experience, my parents separated just after I married). He needs to man up and talk to them.
Post # 6
I would ask each of them what they would prefer.
Post # 7
Thanks everyone for the replies. I think talking to them is the best way to go. I appreciate the input!