Post # 1
- Wedding: September 2010 - Heron Hill Winery
Any 9/11/10 brides out there? I understand there is a lot of negative feelings towards this date so I wonder how many brides have stuck with and kept it…My reason for asking is that we are still playing the pick a date came and my father has just come through to help us with financing. We had initially wanted to marry next fall, but decided to put it off until the following year due to financing concerns. However, now that my father has decided to fund our wedding we are looking back into having our wedding in fall 2010. Trouble is that the number one venue has limited dates in Sept/Oct., one of these dates being 9/11/10…there are others in Oct., but I worry it is too late in Oct to consider…so my conundrum (sp)What would guests thing of a 9/11 wedding?
Post # 3
The only dates left in ’09 when I booked was 9/11 and my date – October 24th … I looked into 2010 and it was all booked for the entire spring/summer and some dates left for fall – which I didn’t want to wait that long but the date that kept coming up everywhere was 9/11.
I just wouldn’t get married on 9/11 because it has such a stigma attached to it now.
Post # 4
Honestly, as a wedding guest, I wouldn’t mind going to a wedding on September 11th. I wouldn’t be offended or anything – but here in the midwest, we’re a little more isolated from what happened, as opposed to you in NY. How does your family feel? What about friends? I think it’d be nice to have your officiant say a prayer at the ceremony or have some kind of remembrance in your program.
Post # 5
I’m live in NYC, so I’m a bit biased. I wouldn’t have any problem with going to a wedding on 9/11, but I just wouldn’t want it for my own date. Living in NY, you get it shoved in your face all day long (esp when you work near the WTC like I do!). It’s on cars, posters, memorabilia, store windows, graffiti…it’s just everywhere. For me, there would just be too much of a stigma/negative connotation attached.
Post # 6
I think it would be great to have something really positive and celebratory to associate with the date instead. As a guest, I’d find it a relief to have something so upbeat to do on that day as attending a wedding. Kind of making it about rebirth and hope rather than just tragedy.
Post # 7
I really wanted an early Sept 2010 wedding but I was disappointed with the choices. The first weekend is the long weekend and the second was Sept 11th!
I just couldn’t do it – when I think of my anniversary I want it to be filled with ONLY thoughts of my wedding and my relationship and I just couldn’t do that with Sept 11th!
Post # 8
I really like the idea of reclaiming the date. The stigma will fade (not too many girls are worried about December 7th and Pearl Harbor, you know?) My future in-law’s anniversary is September 11th. That said, I wasn’t as impacted by the events as a lot of people were. Our rehearsal dinner will be on the 11th. I guess at least we’ll never have the excuse of forgetting our anniversary!
Post # 9
I think it’s fine assuming that no one in your circle of family and friends was directly affected by the attacks. Also, while it was an unthinkably horrible thing and a national tragedy, I think it would be good to – as others said – reclaim that date as something positive and celebratory in your life. I think it’s important that we remember as a nation, but I don’t think it needs to be a day of mourning and sadness forever. The Pearl Harbor comment was a very valid one to that end.
Post # 10
Ditto Kittyachi 100%. Only you can decide it it would be a good date for you.
Post # 11
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
My dad’s birthday is September 11, and it’s always weird to figure out if we’ll go out on his brithday or the day before/after. Hopefully your anniversaries wouldn’t feel that way to you. 😉
I don’t know. Tragedies happen any and every day of the year, but life has to go on. It depends on how you feel about this particular one. I think it’s okay to do a Sept. 11 wedding, but how do *you* feel?
Post # 12
I’m all for reclaiming the date! I might try to rephrase it on the invitations “The eleventh of September,” for example. And of course be prepared to hear a few comments.
Post # 13
We were going to have ours on September 11, 2010 too, and only chose the weekend before because we have a ton of out of town guests and wanted to give them the Labor Day weekend. Go for it girl, don’t worry about it.
Post # 14
Ooo that’s a sticky one. As long as you don’t work at the Pentagon, live in the area that had the incident in PA, or live in NYC you should be ok. That’s like my FI’s friend whose birthday is Sept. 11th. It was his birthday WAY before those bafoons decided to do what they did. If that’s what you want, or what you are restricted to, do what you want! My only thing would be if you have a specific stigma (lost a family member/friend, etc) on that day and it would always carry a bad connotation for you.
Post # 15
our vendor actually said we could get money off if we chose 9/11 … we went with 9/25. I don’t think our guests would even really think about it but I would!
Post # 16
I don’t think it would be a problem. I agree with what a lot fo people have said about reclaiming it for yourself and turning something negative into something positive! Yes, you may get some grumbles from some of your guests, but in the end it is your decision, and yours alone.
Good luck and keep us posted.