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Some of the comments, in my opinion, seem really tactless. I am a proud 09/11/10 bride and absolutely believe that despite it being a rather very important date in history [one which should never be forgotten or thought of lightly], believes that it is even more reason to find new meaning in the date. Do you really think that if you were to have your wedding on 09/11, you would wake up that morning and be depressed or sad? I think those are not the right words ...
I will honor the date [as with many other important dates in history where sad and terrible things have taken place] with a few quiet moments of reflection, a quiet acknowledgment of what the day is [rather than a denial or an attempt to 'convince' myself it's "ok to get married" on that day] ... and with a quiet prayer for those that are grieving and finding the harder side of the day's significance.
But I will be happy, and embrace that good things happen on 09/11. There have always been babies born, milestones celebrated, festivals, anniversaries and weddings on this date. And to honor the happiness of THOSE people who hold the date dear for good reasons, I will celebrate at our wedding.
Which comments were tactless, sasapok? I think everyone expressed themselves pretty respectfully in this thread.
FI is a New Yorker and knows many people affected by the events on 9/11/01, not to mention the fact that he himself witnessed the second tower fall and his own home was covered by smoke from the wreckage for days. When we were discussing wedding dates, he explicitly said that he wouldn't be comfortable having our wedding on this date. Not that he believes someone else's choice to do so is distasteful, but that he just wouldn't want to have his own wedding anniversary on the date. It has too many negative connotations for him and he isn't comfortable "reclaiming it" for himself in such a way.
I am a 9/11 bride, why did we pick the date? Well we wanted to get married at Leu Gardens and the only available date without going to late in the year was 9/11. At first my fiance's father was like do you think that's a good idea? Half our family is from New York yada yada. My fiance and I looked at each other and said I don't mind if you don't because it's just a date honestly. 9/11 was a tragic day and hey if I had family actually directly affected by it then I would have definitely said no but life goes on. Although 9/11 was tragic, a lot of heros came our of the day and family and friends came together and now it's Patriot's Day. So I feel honored to be married on the date and I won't think of my wedding or anniversary negatively because of it, if anything it's a nice reminder that we should remember the day and tell someone you love them because ya just never know. 
Listen I am a New Yorker and I don't see anything wrong with 9/11- it is a sad day, But your wedding will help make it a more positive day.
Its not like NOTHING good can happen on December 7th because in 1941 the Japanese attacked Pearl Harbor...
Enjoy your day :)
I personally wouldn't pick 9/11 because my Dad worked in the WTC.
However, it isn't a national day of mourning or "holiday" so I don't think it's necessarily wrong with choosing that date. And like other posters have said, it would be a positive event. Make it yours!
I am also a September 11th 2010 bride! I have been having a hard time with this date as well, but now that I see I'm not alone, I'm very much at ease! Very positive views about this date!!
the only reason i wouldn't have it is bc it's my mom's birthday but i don't think it's too strange unless you or someone close to you was directly affected by the tragedy i was only 14 when it happened and i live across the country so i have no ties to that date. don't let it worry to much
besides not only that as an avid history person something bad has more or less happened at sometime on every date in the year yours was just more recent
My fiance and I are getting married on 9.11.10, and we are happy with the date we chose.
We don't see any reason we can't use this date. September 11, 2001, is a terrible and tragic day. September 11, 2010, is a beautiful day for us; it's our wedding day!
We love the idea of taking a day such as September 11 and making it a positive day, and so do our family and friends. While we are sad about the events that happened on September 11, 2001, we believe in giving that day a new name.
In our wedding program, we will have the following quote: While in our minds this day holds images of great tragedy, we understand that there is also great beauty in this world; a beauty that can be found in the love that God has provided for us - a love we share in marraige. So while we move on forever remembering the pain, this couple on this day sparks a new image of happiness in the world.
I do not find it at all tasteless to get married on this day. People get married on December 7th all the time and no one even thinks twice. There are many days in history that are sad and tragic days. I believe in not soaking in what has happened for us, but instead standing up and making it something better. We will forever be sad for what has happened on September 11, 2001, but will forever rejoice about what happened on September 11, 2010!
My grandparents were married on 9/11 (oh about 56 years ago or so!). Their anniversary is no less special because a tragedy happened to occur on that date 40 something years later. I've always wanted a fall wedding and I would absolutely choose 9/11, not just because I would share the anniversary with my wonderful grandparents but because it's *just* a date. Not to sound insensitive, but how many of these people who made negative comments even remember 9/11 on that date until they see a news story marking the anniversary? I probably would have avoided it for the first year after 9/11/01 but since almost 10 years has passed, I don't think there is the same remembrance that occurs which would make the date a bit sad.
Our wedding is on September 11, 2010. We wanted to get married in the late summer/early fall and this was the only date available for our venue and most important our church. At first I had many hesitations about the date and if others would think we were being insensitive to its tragic history, but I wanted to make something positive of it. I think everyday something tragic happens in someone's life and if we have the opportunity to make something positive about it- it's a good thing.
We both also met while working for the transportation security administration, so it is because of that tragic days events that our jobs were created, and why we met.
It is nice to see everyone's different take and opinion of this day. Good luck everyone with the rest of your planning! We are almost there! :)
I live in NYC and I'm getting married in upstate NY but it just hits too close to home. If it were me, I would choose October..the leaves are beautiful then (at least in upstate NY). I almost didn't get the date I wanted (Sept 4th) and Sept 11 was open but I would have rather waited until the next fall date...luckily the couple backed out of Sept 4th so I took it. It depends how you feel about the date and ultimately it's up to you!
I see nothing wrong with it. I can't chose it (not yet engaged) and I just wouldn't because my SO was working in the Pentagon that day. I don't want him to think about that on our wedding day. I AM thinking of Sept. 10th next year. I just want to get married in Sept. or October.LOL
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