Post # 1
My Fiance and I are coming up with 3 back up dates incase the weekend we picked first isn’t available. He says that his Grandma would love September 11th because thats when his grandparents got married. Is it wrong to celebrate something on the anniversary of something so tragic?
Post # 3
Personally, I don’t think it is wrong at all, especially since the date is meaningful for your family. Babies have been born and are born on Sept 11 every year and the joy is nothing less than normal.
Post # 4
As a September 11, 2010 bride, I say no! You’d be hard-pressed to find any date in the year that’s remained unscarred with tragedy over the course of history. Unless someone close to you had a family member die that day, I wouldn’t say it’s insensitive. Life goes on, as it should. Plus, it sounds like that date has special meaning for you!
So go ahead and get married, and don’t feel bad.
Post # 5
Nobody avoids other bad dates- D Day 6/6, the days we dropped an atomic bomb on Japan 8/6, the day Pearl Harbor was bombed 12/7, why should 9/11 be any different.
It always seems to me that the people least effected by it are the ones that harp on it the most, so unless your family lost people in the World Trade or Pentagon, I see no reason to avoid it.
Post # 6
My sister planned to have her wedding saturday Dec. 6th. She was having trouble booking vendors until she switched her date to Sunday Dec. 7th then everything was easier because it was sunday. We kinda laughed that it was on Pearl Harbor Day and it was ironic that her theme was 1940‘s vintage hollywood. It was a great wedding and I don’t think anyone really realized (other than me) what day it was. Everyone had a great time.
Post # 7
As someone who witnessed the attacks (I taught three blocks from the WTC) I think it would be preferable for Manhattan and Washington D.C. brides to consider alternative dates, since many people in the city lost friends or relatives or witnessed the attacks. I was surprised to be invited to a Manhattan wedding on September 11th, but the bride had some issues (the first time I met her she told her husband that he was too fat to eat the entree he wanted to order, and she spent dessert complaining about how hard it was to deal with the side effects her fiancee experienced from his antidepressents).
But I honestly wouldn’t think anything less of a bride who invited me to a wedding in Ohio on September 11th, since it is likely that few of her guests were directly affected and as previous posters noted many different dates have negative associations for some guests.
Post # 8
Well we’ve given it some thought at I think we’re going to change our date to September 11, 2010. Thanks for all the input! It really helped!
Post # 9
I don’t see a problem with it. I agree with everyone else that there are several dates that would be "off limits" if everyone avoided these dates all together. I would only consider it in bad taste if either of you lost an immediate family member on Sept. 11th, but the anniversary of an immediate family member’s death could be applied to any date on the calendar. So as long as no one in your family has that personal connection, I think it is perfectly fine.
Also, welcome from Perrysburg! As a Toledo bride, I’m from your neck of the woods :-). What reception location did you choose? I’m just curious :-).
Post # 10
All things considered, I think it would be fine. As long as, like everyone else said, no one you know was "personally" effected.
Post # 11
My FI actually really liked the idea, however I personally did not. Maybe it’s too fresh in mind mind but I wouldnt feel comfortable with sharing the date on a day so tragically historic. This is just me though — I am a very "emotional" person lol.
Interesting story though, We visited the venue we are hoping for and the day we were going to get married was already booked. We went through the dates that are available and the events manager saw 9/11 was free. He literally stopped and stared at the computer almost in a panic and said "I’m never going to sell this date!" He then told us that he would knock $500 the room charge if we chose the date!
Isn’t that a shame?
Post # 12
Yay September! I asked the same question and ultimately went for the previous weekend. But I do beleive that as it gets closer, there’ll be tons of sept 11th brides. The weather should be beautiful, at least in my neck of the woods, and people will want that sept saturday.
Post # 13
Yes I agree with Professorbee….I think this day is way more significant for those LIVING in that city. And it would be wrong to celebrate a wedding on a day that they city is mourning (you wouldn’t want that anyways). But since you’re from Ohio…go for it!!!
Post # 14
I was just discussing this with my FI the other day because we are looking at wedding dates in the Fall 2010 and I noticed that Sept. 11th falls on a Saturday that year. Both of us grew up in New Jersey and I believe most of our family and friends in the area would find it a little odd to choose that date since so many people from NJ work in the nearby cities. I agree with some of the earlier comments that if you aren’t from the Northeast it probably won’t seem as big of a deal and guests probably won’t think twice about it. And just like Pearl Harbor Day, over time the stigma of the date will fade.
Post # 15
I lost an old friend in the terrorist attacks of September 11th.
Then one of my closest friends gave birth to her son on September 11th, two years ago….her baby was early. At first I felt bad for her (and I told her so) but she said she was glad that she was able to create life and make that a day of celebration for her and her family.
I thought alot about what she said, and as a result my opinion about that date changed. Now I feel that it’s empowering for us to "reclaim" that day. It doesn’t mean we’ve forgotten what happened and what was lost that day, in fact I feel as if it’s something of a tribute to create something positive out of something so overwhelmingly negative.
Post # 16
@ Lorienne: thats a great way to think about it. no one will forget what happened that day so why not celebrate and revel in what you still have. Thanks for the positive vibe! =)