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Oh yes. This is what my brain has become...Where are my invitations? Why haven't they been delivered? It's been almost 3 weeks and my mother doesn't have hers yet. What about flowers? Do I know what I want? Do I know how I want them? Are we going to have too many people attend and therefore we won't fit into the church? Are we going to be able to afford all of this in the end? Are people going to like it? Are people going to hate it? Where are we going to get chairs from? What if everything ends up looking ugly? What if my hair gets all frizzy?
(At this point I just want to crawl into bed & cry)
@Miss Smashville: Yay for you living in Nashville Ill be moving out there in a month (a week after the wedding)
@kfraztobe: I moved here in 2006 and really like it. Once I stepped outside my comfort zone and started doing things on my own, I really saw how much the city had to offer...sports, music, art, food and so many other things.
um yes, I have had touble sleeping for the past week, I feel nausious already, and my and FI are going at it like cats and dogs. 
Yes and no on the anxiety...I just posted in the September board, and boy oh boy am I a mixed bag right now! Just thinking about the wedding I get so giddy and laughy, but also a vague sense of panic. I still have so many little things to get done, and the days are sliding by!
Whew, deep breaths....
Out of 156 invitations that were sent out, we have 78 unknowns. Of those 78, we know 14 of them are lost in the mail. I'm in a constant state of wanting to throw up and/or cry.
I'm just waiting for all those RSVPs to come back...they are due back this Friday and I've only heard from 20 parties so far, and have about 120 more parties to hear from. They better get on it!
And I had my first wedding nightmare last night. It was that me and my bridesmaids were standing at the end of the aisle ready to walk down and they asked me where the bouquets were. I realized I forgot them at home. I ran to my car and drove home. By the time I got back all my guests had left because they didn't want to wait for me. :)
I downloaded a list-making app for my iPhone so I will constantly have my to-do list with me. Every time I think of even the littlest thing, I put it in the list.
I CANNOT decide on my hair though! ARgg! I keep changing my mind!
@wannabediybride-The iphone app is a good idea. I just keep lugging around my wedding binder to and from work in case I think of something.
- I can't decide on my hair or accessories either. Its so much pressure to know everyone will be staring at me and I want to look my absolute best...but I'm totally fashion inept! LOL
I get excited, then I remember all the things left to do and I feel like there is not enough time. And what if this and what about that!! OMG!
Then last night we are trying to finalize the ceremony and spent a good five minutes going in circles. It is kind of funny.
I had picked three readings I liked and read them to him. I asked how many he wanted 2 or 3 and if two which ones. Then he states that he thought there was only 2. So I told him I had read 3 and asked again how many he wants.
Those two statements for about 5 minutes!
We were supposed to meet with our officiant yesterday but he forgot he was meeting with on and he was about 2 1/2 hours away from where we were supposed to meet up. I am getting very anxious. We are having two houseguest staying with us for about a week before we get married.... I am totally stressing out. I am so ready for the day to come. I also have been checking weather reports for our honeymoon location. The previous 10 days and the next 10 days are thunderstorms and rain.... I just hope it is nice while we are there. OMG I am totally freaking now.
@Jen91011: & @Wannabe-diy-bride: That's a great idea. I also use Google Docs because it's in my email so I can use it on the computer or my phone and it's with me at all times. I am such a list-maker, too.
I keep feeling like I'm falling behind but then I look at what I have done and I think I'm doing ok, I think it's just the anxiety of knowing it's coming up so fast that worries me and makes me panic.
We still have some weeks left, so no need to panic yet, girls!!!
I am definitely getting there, though I think my fiance is more stressed than I am. I am pretty ready to say f it to a lot of little things, and almost all the big things are taken care of. Also, we are apparently having a 65 person wedding instead of a 95 person one like initially expected. Which is both more stress and less.
I keep having dreams that we forget to bring the rings to Carmel with us. Or that I am too busy getting ready and don't make it to the wedding... maybe I'm subconsciously worried that in all these details I might forget to get married! Or maybe it's the fact that I need to write our vows and edit our ceremony and our officiant is hiking to Everest Base camp and won't be reachable for two weeks so maybe I should have gotten that done beforehand...
Oh yes - I definitely am.
It started just over a week ago with a dream that I went to get my dress, and it wasn't there. Then they said it's in this other room - so I go there and put it on, except it was not my dress, but instead some huge ballgown with red in it. I was waiting to see my dress for the first time since it came in, so I think that attributed to that dream.
Now, this morning I wake up from a dream that I showed up to my wedding, FI can't find his suit, no one is doing the right thing, we screw everything up, and all the extras (centerpieces, candy buffet, etc) are left at home. I have a tendency to forget things, so I'm extra paranoid for this.
Ugh - I can't take these dreams, as I can't get back to sleep after them!
I wasn't nervous before that I was going to forget something at home...but now reading these I am! LOL
And we live 3 hours from our venue so I better start making a packing list now of everything that needs to go with us so I don't forget anything.
What has been keeping me calm is the thought that at the end of the day, we're married. If i forget something, or the flowers aren't the perfect shade, or 2 people are no-shows or someone gets too drunk....regardless...at the end of the day, we're married. I might be singing a different tune as it gets closer, but this thought process has allowed for me to let go of the anxiety and just get really, really excited. :)
Yes.
We are 8 days away from our ABSOLUTE FINAL HEAD COUNT date and my parents apparently still think the guest list is a living document. Their last-minute additions, plus the last-minute additions' uninvitied plus-ones (who DOES that, btw?? apparently everybody), plus last-minute cancellations from people who are "just too tired from remodeling every weekend" is really starting to freak me out.
As I told them last night, we are paying our balance next Monday, early, because I cannot deal with this anymore. Extra people who show up won't have chairs or food. People who don't show up are going to be costing us $125 each.
Hey, I feel much better. Thanks for listening.
Totally anxious! Anxiously worrying that my alteration lady is going to screw up my dress. Also starting to feel anxious about looking my best on the day of the wedding and have decided to give up drinking alcohol, caffeine, and soda until my wedding.
Just found what i think is a lipstick stain on the bust of my dress yesturday!!! How the hell did that happen before the wedding??? So freaking paranoid that it won't come out.
I was feeling good until the second hair trial was a frizzaster as well! That resulted in an anxious few days as I thought about having awful hair on my wedding day, and hating all of the wedding pictures I'd been so excited about (love our photographers!). I ended up styling my own hair in a way I like, and felt waaay better about it! Phew! Now it's just a matter of getting everything done in time - so much to do!
I just made my remaining "To Do" list and it was 49 items long...that kind of stressed me out. But we went to a wedding last night and the couple had been so worried and distracted by silly details leading up to the wedding they were exhausted and beat by their wedding. So that has inspired me to spend the next 2.5 weeks trying to be productive, but taking a moment each day to get excited about the wedding and remind myself how luck I am to be marrying my best friend!
I feel the anxiety and am starting to get an eye twitch - bad sign! But less than a week away how crazy!
@Jen91011:Agreed, I love the blogs so much but then I see other peoples ideas and I'm like oh I love that so much more, maybe we can change it etc etc. Mainly just trying to focus on what we have decided we are only three weeks away focus haha.
How are your moms holding up? I'm going back and forth between hand-wringing anxiety or just being excited like a kid waiting for Christmas. My co-worker whose daughter is getting married 9-10-11 also was taken to the ER yesterday with chest pains. I hope she is doing ok, we haven't heard, and I know she wants her daughters wedding to be wonderful and not for her to be worried about her mom instead.
I've been having bad migraines, anybody else? Am trying not to be a worry-wart around my daughter so she won't catch it from me. She is showing definite signs of Bride Brain though. <G>
@geminidream:Well my grandmother is way more involved than my mother is and she is just trying to calm around me like you are doing with your dauther bc she knows I can get a bit frazzled at times. I personally go thru phases where I'm like nervous that I am forgetting something to calm and collected because I know I have everything. Honestly at this point I just want it to get here haha, of course after its done idk what I will have to focus on haha.
OMG 8 days to go here and still got things to do!!!! I just cant wait for the day to come and be over with !! I just want it to be a beautiful and smooth day!
On top of wedding planning, moving, and working full time I started grad school this week, has anxiety kicked in, umm YES! My eyelid has been twitching for 3 days!
I feel like I have so much left to do, I'm so nervous that all of my lists do not cover everything. :o
Happy September brides and enjoy your day!
We're down to 9 days. I wouldn't say it's "anxiety" but I definitely can't turn my brain off. It's constantly running through my list of things to do. Right now the things stressing me out the most are (1) getting everything paid and (2) getting everything setup the morning of the wedding. In reality I know that everything will be paid and that everything will be set up even if it's not exactly how I'd like it but my brain won't let it go.
Awww...my daughter is having headaches now. :( I am doing everything I can think of to get her to smile and laugh and joke and not dwell on stress. Right now I've got her lying down with an ice pack on her head, hope it helps. Our 'to-do's' are coming along so well! The photo wall turned out AWESOME and now we are ready to begin hauling stuff to the venue.
Hang in there, brides...9-10-11 is going to be wonderful!
@Ka393:Agreed, want it to go smoothly but ready for it to be here and ready to be over.
Those are my biggest worries too getting things all paid and ready to go in the morning. I am scared things wont get set up and then I'll be spinning my tires in the AM trying to get it all done. Just trying to have faith in others (phew) trying anyways.
Last weekend, I was also worried that I would have too much to do and wouldn't have enough help. I can say I was amazed and touched by all the people who jumped in to help set up and do anything needed to get the wedding going.
It turned out fantastic. Don't worry...everyone will want to help you on your big day and it will go just fine :) Good Luck!!
2 days to go! At this point it's no use worrying about anything. I know that everything is going to work out and it'll be beautiful and in 50 hours I get to marry my best friend!!!
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Just about a month away...and I'm completely anxiety ridden!
What if I'm not thinking of something...will all these To Do's actually get done...why didn't I get my behind in the gym and on a diet...etc etc LOL
And as much as I love looking at bridal blogs (love love love) I feel like they are making it worse because I keep thinking of more details and projects to add to make my wedding even half as nice as the ones I see.
Any other brides feeling the anxiety kicking in?