sequins as a guest?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

So i actually have first hand experience with this..My BIL’s GF wore a floor length gown with sequins (same color as your 1st selection). While she looked lovely she definitely came across as odd. I didn’t think anything of it the day of, I mean, it was my wedding day and I was not at all concerned about what anybody else was wearing!!

Apparently she really had an impact on like 99% of my guests and people were talking about it being inappropriate, etc. From my perspective – a dress like that is sort of odd but that’s about it. I don’t think she deserved the ridicule she got for it, but then again I feel like I’m pretty carefree in general. All I know is I feel bad that people are still cracking disco ball jokes a month later.

For reference, my wedding was very formal, late wedding, evening reception, fancy church and ballroom at a country club In-laws are members at. We attend many galas throughout the year and I would not hesitate to wear a dress like that to one, however, I would not wear a dress like that to a wedding.. I’m pretty conservative though. And honestly, you know your crowd better than anybody on these boards.. What is THEIR style? Are they conservative like my people are?

Sorry to make this even more difficult! It’s hard to find an event dress sometimes!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

i was moh at a wedding wear one of the guests wore a sequin dress and people talked alot and not in a good way, i say get that dress for new years and find something less flashy for the wedding 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Eeek, I don’t know! If this is a huge sort of “Kim Kardashian” wedding I think sequens would be fine because there is NO WAY you would outshine the bride… but it could be tricky!! Go with your gut. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

it’s ok to wear sequins. i’ve never heard of them being looked down upon and i don’t understand why @Starling13:‘s sister in law got so much flack.   

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m from Boca Raton, and the area is quite fancy, so you wouldn’t stick out for wearing a sequin dress! My wedding is this weekend, and I’ve seen some outfits that are quite shiny, and noone will stand out from the crowd! I would stick to floor length though. Tends to be more appropriate for venues like the Boca resort. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@bebero:  I suppose it was just innapropriate for our demograghic? IDK – like I said, it was everyone else who was concerned by it.

@TrousseauHorse: 

Honestly? I think you need to follow your instinct on this one. As @MizzStark1026:  mentioned, Boca is pretty glitz and glam. It’s difficult to compare weddings since Formal and Black Tie can mean so many things depending on location, etc.

Just an FYI. I have an event coming up and I was eyeing your second choice, the green Bagley Mischka.. Those suckers didn’t have it in my size available so I ended up with this one:

http://www.renttherunway.com/shop/designers/carmenmarcvalvo_dresses/goldenleafgown

fingers crossed it works out.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Totally fine.  The people PPs are talking about who talked smack about a sequin wearing guest need to have the stick removed from their ass.  There are a lot of sequin gowns these days, I wish someone I know would have a black tie wedding so I could wear one!

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I am wondering about this, too. I hope @abbie017: sees this thread, because I know she will know the answer.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@TrousseauHorse:  I attended a Black Tie wedding recently in downtown D.C., and I’d say 75% of the women wore short dresses. But either way, I think sequins are fine! Based on your description, it sounds like it’s going to be quite the event. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I have to admit, my first thought was “Noooooooo” but that is more because I just don’t like sequins and less because of your actually situation. (After years as a competitive dancer, anything with sequins, mesh, or decorative netting makes me homicidal.) Reaching out to the other ladies (especially in your same age group) is a good idea. Good luck!

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I just attended a wedding a couple weeks ago and this girl was wearing a beautiful sequined dress. I think it’s totally fine – she looks gorgeous!

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