- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2013
Hi there. I am having a REALLY hard time deciding what to do in this situation.
My engagement ring was purchased online. It’s bezel set, with an exposed bottom.
The other night, I had accidently enlarged a side profile pic of my ring- and then noticed that the diamond sits ever-so-slightly crooked in the bezel. It’s so slight, that I had to stare at my ring from multiple angles in person to see if it was just the lighting and my eyes playing tricks. It’s so slight, that I’m sure the person who set it didn’t even notice.
I took it in to my local jewler, who I trust completely. He too, had to look from multiple angles under the scope to verify that it was “ever-so slightly” crooked. The diamond is very secure, and there’s is absolutely NO way that anyone even taking the ring off of my hand and looking at it would notice unless I told them. I mean- I had never noticed before I saw the enlarged pic and it’s MY ring. My local jeweler said that unless it was something that bothered me, he would reccomend just keeping it the way it is- it IS set by hand, and while there is excellent craftsmanship, is there such thing as perfect? I do not believe in “perfect”- nature doesn’t create perfect things…and much of it is in the eye of the beholder.
Of course the place we got it from will take it back, free of charge/shipping and reset my diamond. This is the only purchase we have made from this place- and while they were friendly, and sold me the GIA certified diamond I chose, I cannot say anything else about them. Thier customer service seems friendly, and you always talk to the same few people whether it’s email or on the phone.
I don’t want to sound crazy, but I hesitate to send the diamond back. I have funny ideas- like what if the person who originally set it is the one to reset it, and gets annoyed because seriously, it’s barely noticeable? Or what if there’s a diamond switch? I can’t map my diamond because although small, it’s a VVS1. I’ve seen it through the scope, and through my untrained eye, it’s flawless. There’s one pinpoint somwhere on there, and I can’t find it. My jeweler here says there is no way to map my diamond. Yes, it’s laser-scribed, but my bezel setting doesn’t allow the numbers to be read unless the diamond is loose.
So it sit on the fence- yes I KNOW that my diamond is the teeniest, tiniest bit crooked. But it’s secure as could be.
I know that since I just noticed this, I am thinking about it more- but I also know that I will likely forget about it over time. I could also have the diamond reset- using my original gold down the road by a local.
What would you guys do in my situation?