Post # 1
At First, Sorry for my bad english. I am from Germany.
I have a serious problem with my Dress. The Thing is i already have a Dress.
It is my sister’s Dress, she married in 3 years ago.
I really like it, there are some allterations Need to be done, but that is Not the matter.
Now my Future mother in Law says, that I cannot d
wear the Dress, behause my sister wore it.
She says it brings ill luck and provokes his philandery.
Another of her Arguments is that we spend so much Money on the wedding that I can buy a New one, but it won’t be my sisters.
so what so you think? Should I buy a New One? Or should I go to a tailor and let it make Look like a New One and just Tell her it is a New One?
Thank you for your comments!
Post # 3
I think you should wear a dress that makes you feel like a bride. If it is your sisters dress then wear it.
Maybe post a picture of you in your sisters dress.
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC
I voted sisters dress because it appears to be what you want. If thats what makes you happy …do it!!
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2014 - Baby #2 due Sep 2017
I agree with the other posters. If you really love the dress you already have, you should wear it! With the adjustments it won’t be the same dress anyway =D
Post # 6
- Wedding: May 2013 - Kempinski San Lawrenz, Gozo
is it your wedding or your mother in law’s wedding?
Post # 7
On the first picture you can see my sister in the dress.
Post # 8
@Mira281: Pretty! If you want to wear your sister’s dress then do it!
Post # 9
What happened to your sister? Did she have problems with her husband? I assume that’s why Future Mother-In-Law doesn’t want you to wear it?
Post # 10
If you love the dress and you want to wear it.. wear it!
If you aren’t sure, go try on some dresses and figure out what you like!
It’s your wedding, and the dress will look differant on you!
Post # 11
What’s stopping you wanting a new dress? If its because you really love your sisters dress then wear it. If its cost then I think you should look at cheaper options for wedding dresses that may be within your budget. It is possible to get a dress for a few hundred euro and it may be preferable to starting your marriage with a fight with your mother in law.
Post # 12
@Rachel631: Nothing happened to my sister. She is very happy with her husband and their son (on the foto she is 5th month pregnant). It is just an old saw in Germany, that a dress from near relations brings ill luck.
The thing is I never wanted a new dress, I always wanted to wear my sisters.
Only the train will be removed and from this material I want to have straps.
Post # 13
personally it it was me, I’d get my own dress, there are lots of similar styles out there and you would have your own twist on it.
if it is a family thing and you want to wear your sisters dress ‘that she picked’ then do.
you need to do what ever makes you happy, but bear in mind your h2b will have seen the dress before on your sis, so it won’t really be a surprise when he uses you in it.
Post # 14
@Mira281: Ah, I see!
Personally, I would just wear your sister’s dress. Maybe you could change parts of it, add a belt and things to make it your own? If you want to add straps, why don’t you tell Future Mother-In-Law that it is a completely different dress… don’t tell her that you changed your sister’s dress!
Post # 15
my gut reaction was “No.” However, I re-read your post and others’ posts and can see that this is what you really want…in which case, you should do it! Maybe add a different veil, accessories…
could also explore the option of purchasing a reception dress too to have the best of both worlds…
very pretty dress.
Post # 16
@Mira281: Hello there! Just wanted to say first that I lived in Germany for three years back in the 90’s, I miss it! My daughter was born in Amberg 🙂
I think you need to wear what you want. If you feel that altering your sisters dress will make it a dress you love then go for it, do not let your future mother in law decide what you will or wil not wear. From experience if you let them take an inch now, they will try and take a mile later, put your foot down and tell her you are going to do whats best for you 😉 Good luck!!