Post # 1
Ok so I’m not a girlie girl I work in an office and tend to wear suits. I don’t like dresses and don’t wear them. From the beginning of deciding to get married my biggest worry was finding a dress for the non dress girl.
I took my mam and Maid/Matron of Honor and we all cried when we found the dress, but still unsure I took my dad the next day because I’m closer to him and he said when I came out and went back in everyone was saying I look like a princess and it’s beautiful blah de blah etc.
Anyways I ended up buying a full on ball gown tulle dress with lots of beading and sparkle and a big train. The more I think about it the more in shock I think people will be to see I picked this style and it horrifies me. I really would prefer a plain dress where everyone says yeah it’s pretty not wow that’s not you. Today at work we were talking about the programme big fat gypsy weddings and they were saying how awful some of the dresses are and I could not help think yep that’s the style I have. My assistant who irritates me at the best of times said the dress should be simple and sophisticated and other stuff. This has all made me feel physically sick and with 9 weeks or so to go I’m searching ebay and 2nd hand stores to find another dress.
Did anyone else out there buy something that they knew other pple would be shocked by and did it bother you? I think I am worrying so much just because I’m much more of a plain Jane kind of girl but these comments just fuel my dress regret 🙁
Post # 3
Question: Do you love your dress?
If yes: Don’t listen to H8rs. H8rs gotta H8. It is YOUR wedding. You can wear whaever you want. ESPECIALLY if you never dress like a girly girl. This is your chance! Let them wear what they want at their own wedding.
Post # 4
Honey, it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks! Do you really think your family would’ve let you buy a dress that didn’t suit you? Do you really think they wouldn’t have told you if they didn’t like the dress? It sounds to me like they loved it and like you’re going to look gorgeous in it!
You are absolutely going to look like YOU!
Could we see a picture maybe? 🙂
Post # 5
Oh man, first of all…you should NOT be comparing your dress to anything that is on that television program. Those are horses of a different color, my friend! I wonder if the reason why you gravitated towards that dress is because it made you feel like a princess. You get that one day to feel that way (your wedding day) and maybe that dress made you feel special, out-of-the-ordinary and wonderful. If you’re regretting it because of what you fear OTHERS will think…it’s not about THEM, it’s about YOU and what the dress makes YOU feel!
Post # 6
@Amndy: You are in EXACTLY the same place I was when I bought my sparkly tulle ballgown. I went wedding dress shopping expecting I would chose something plain, simple and understated. I can honestly say that I didn’t have dress regret as such but in my mind my dress just got bigger and bigger and my mum and I ended up referring to it as ‘my big fat gypsy wedding dress’….although just to point out, she thought it was perfect. I spent the whole year in the lead up to my wedding thinking (and saying) it was too big. I have very classic taste and thought it might be too much. In the end it was the best dress I could ever have picked as I felt like a princess on my wedding day…..and never believed that would be me!!
P.s the train was quite long but bustled beautifully. The first picture isn’t that great (was taken at a fitting before losing 10lbs) and I got amazing compliments….even after the wedding 😀
Post # 7
@skyeatnight: That dress looks AMAZING on you!!
Post # 9
When did you buy it? Was it an order in dress? Can you contact the store if you’re unhappy with it?
– just because it’s not something you pictured yourself in, doesn’t mean you don’t look great in it 🙂
Post # 10
Awe I nearly shed a tear reading this thanks 🙂
@ Tangled yes I do love it and your right if liked it and love it I should not let anyone else’s ideal dress matter to me 🙂
@ inky_1 Thanks and I don’t have any pictures. It never occurred to me to take any when I was trying them on and I have only had it on twice and decided if I had pictures I might convince myself more that I did not like it. I got the dress from a designer outlet so it does not have any tag to say who made it 🙁 I’m having a trial soon with all my accessories so I will have one taken then and post 🙂
@ MsMindle thanks and you are so right my biggest problem is not with the dress but what I think others might think and I do feel like a princess in the dress I need to learn that what I want matters more 🙂
@ Skyeatnight your dress is AMAZING and you look AMAZING very similar to mine, I’m sure mine is bigger but that could be in my head lol. I never knew a tulle dress could be bustled, could you share a pic? This is one thing that I’ve been stressing about as I had visions of people standing on it all the time I would love to bustle it. I have not seen a seamstress to ask this because the dress needs no alterations (kind of says the dress was made for me) I’m 5’7 and wearing 3 inch heels and the dress fits perfect.
PS: I’m not a dress girl but wait till you see my shoes, shoes I defo do 🙂
Post # 11
@ ticatica I bought it from a bridal warehouse paid for it there and then and brought it home so I think they are very unlikely to let me change it now. 2nd to that my other half has worked 6 days a week and from 6 till 6 for the last month to help pay for some wedding bands that I want that are £800 over our budget. He would be devastated if I blew this on another dress (although if I cried enough he would cave in )
Post # 12
I’m sure you’re going to look beautiful and nothing at all like the Gypsy Wedding girls. They put a lot of time and money into looking that trashy. I don’t think you could do it if you tried.
Post # 13
Really, if you never wear dresses you are going to get a reaction from everyone anyway so it might as well be how happy you look in your perfect dress! 🙂
Post # 14
I was in a similar situation, except that I decided on the simple, sheath gown instead of the big tulle ballgown. When my simple dress arrived, I realized that I didn’t want to wear what everyone expected me to wear on my wedding day. I wanted to wear something fabulous that fit my bubbly/happy personality, not my work persona (I too work in an office and am always in pants/pantsuits, business attire in dark colors and simple lines; no frills for me!) Anyway, I hated my simple dress and realized that my wedding would realistically be the only chance I would have to wear a big, huge romantic ballgown and look completely appropriate.
One week after my simple wedding dress arrived, I ordered the big, lacey, tulle ballgown that made me feel like a queen. It arrived yesterday and I’m picking it up on Friday. Can’t wait!!
Wear what you want to wear; don’t worry about what others think. Close your eyes and picture yourself on you wedding day with the dress of your dreams. Don’t listen to others, especially your annoying assistant. All that matters is how you feel about your dress. Good luck!!
p.s. I’m a shoe girl too!
Post # 15
@Amndy: Ok. If there’s no option to exchange then put it into perspective. Everyone thought you looked beautiful in it. Perhaps a part of that is that they were surprised by your choice. Sometimes taking yourself out of your comfort zone is a good thing…people may see you differently but that’s not a bad thing….they might just think it’s great to see you in something so feminine.
I’ve second guessed my dress for the last year but at the end of the day, if I’d got married in something I was more comfortable in and was more ‘me’, i’d be wandering down the aisle in jeans and a pair of wedges. If they say you look amazing in your dress, then you do look amazing in your dress.
Post # 16
Don’t let people make you doubt yourself! Did you feel amazing when you tried it on? Did you love it? Then rock it! Also, when in life will you ever get to wear a great big gorgeous ballgown? You can wear simple evening gowns for any occasion, but this is your wedding! Your big day! I’m sure you will look beyond beautiful!