Post # 1
My fiance has a guaranteed 4 groomsmen. Over the years, i’ve really grown apart from most of the girls I used to consider close friends. I really only have 1 left. All I have so far for bridesmaides are her and my sister. I’ve been trying to reconnect with an old co worker who I became close with when we were working together but we haven’t seen eachother in about a year and a half. We try to make plans to hang out but it never seems to work. I also have a friend that I met online on a site called girlfriendsocial.com. We’ve been chatting DAILY for about 2 months but we haven’t met yet. I don’t want it to seem like i’m desperate for anyone who will fill the position of bridesmaid but I really am starting to panic. Would it be inappropriate to ask them? I mean my wedding isn’t for at least 17 months (we have an idea of when we want to get married but we haven’t booking a date yet). I don’t wanna feel stupid at my wedding with only 2 bridesmaids and his 4 groomsmen.
Post # 3
A few thoughts:
(1) There’s nothing wrong with having mismatched numbers of bridesmaids and groomsmen
(2) You really shouldn’t ask anyone to be in the wedding party until 8-12 months out, because, unfortunately relationships change
(3) I personally think it’s bizarre to ask someone to be a BM who you have never met in real life, or who you haven’t seen in 18 months.
Post # 4
@abbie017: I agree with all three of these points
Post # 5
I had the same issue….I only had my sister and his sister on my side and he had 3 guys…then he decided he wanted his sister on his side…so he cut it down to two guys and his sister. But that only left me with one on my side. I was so stressed out and thought it was going to look really stupid too :/ In the end I decided to ask my close male cousing to stand on my side….so its gonna be two on mine, 3 on his, mixed gender each side.
When I originally pictured our wedding I pictured this all in a more traditional sense, even numbers on both sides, and the girls all on my side, guys all on his. But for us it’s not going to work out that way and I’ve come to accept it and even embrace it. I no longer think even numbers on each side are necessary and I doubt anyone will really care, the focus is on you two 🙂
I wouldn’t ask anyone you are not really close to. Having someone stand up for you is not about making the numbers even, it’s about the love and support they offer to you and your partner.
That girlfriendsocial site sounds interesting…I may check it out. I’ve been trying for so long to make new friends in this area, and it’s so hard!
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
I agree with pp. If you have more male than female friends, would you consider asking them to be in your bridal party?
Post # 7
Nothing wrong with uneven sides. Maybe have two bridesmaids with one groomsmen or just have the bridesmaids walk down by themselves. It seems you are trying to too hard to fill open bridesmaids positions, which isn’t the point of a bridesmaid.