Serious Photography etiquette question :(

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
42101 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Seashells7: ” I am sorry, but having heard no response  to our last email for three weeks, we have chosen another vendor. We love your work and  perhaps can work with you in the future.”

Post # 4
386 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Seashells7:  I think a short email like “Hey, unfortunately, we found someone else while we were waiting on your response. We really needed to get the photographer settled and keep checking things off our to do list. Thank you for your response. I wish you luck and appreciate you taking the time to meet with us!” will do the trick..

Post # 7
6158 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

whose photos do you like better? go with that one?

i went to see a florist, met with her for 90 ish minutes.  she was highly recommended by a friend.  her stuff was ok, but then i met with another florist that i liked better.

i emailed the first florist, thanked her for her time and said i was using another florist.

she emailed back with “i’m disappointed”

i don’t feel bad, this is my wedding. i want things a certain way.

nature of the business.


Post # 9
1584 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@julies1949:  +1. Perfect response, short and sweet, polite, to the point.

Post # 10
729 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

It’s business, not friendship, so I wouldn’t worry too much about hurting her feelings. As long as you are polite (“Thank you for your information, but we have decided to go with a different photographer…”) there’s nothing to worry about. A real professional knows how to deal with this without falling to pieces.

Post # 11
1140 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I know there is a lack of commincation from her( waiting 3 weeks) but also, you could of called her to. She may be offened.

However, it is ulitmatly your choice, and if you like number 4 better then just tell her what some of the pp have said.

Post # 13
208 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@Seashells7:  You are not being unreasonable picking a new vendor. You do not want to spend time worrying in the future “is she going to respond in a timely manner?” Even if her explanation about your emails in the spam folder is true, she should have contacted you before that without any prompting. 

Post # 14
3735 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@julies1949:  +1  A professional will appreciate honest feedback and it might make her treat future clients more dependably.

Post # 15
4576 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I don’t know why folks worry so much about offending a vendor they *aren’t* going to use :-p I was going to do makeup for a friends wedding and we had a trial set up…that day arrived and she didnt show up. When I texted her asking what the deal was, she said she wasnt feeling well or something. A week later, I texted her to reschedule and she came clean: despite my HEAVILY discounted rate, she found a girl willing to do her and her 10 bridesmaids makeup for free.

She got a better deal, and so did you. Your vendor will understand and not take it personally.

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