Post # 1
So as the story goes I ran into my ex this week at a bar and we spoke for over an hour. I am getting married in 2 months and he is in a relationship.
ex is my first love and I still love him. He also said that he loves me…but he thinks itll never work between us …therefore, hes gonna go ahead and propose to his current g.f. He also said he thinks about me every day.
I am feeling like crap this week because of our little encounter and I dont know what to do. My fiance is the most amazing man but we share a different type of love than I did with my first l Iove….as im sure everyone does. Ive been having cold feet but seeing my ex was like a knife to the heart. I dont know what to do…im hoping this feeling will pass before I make a mistake. I was so excited for my wedding and marriage until this happened.
Post # 3
@mrsbee21: honestly it sounds like your ex was just trying to mess with your head. Which is really immature.
stop dwelling on it. If he thought he was “the one” for you he would have tried to get you to try again but instead said that he’s proposing to his gf….
bottom line it was a jab at you.
Post # 4
@mrsbee21: There are many factors at play here. I would like a bit more information before I comment further.
First of all, can you tell us how long you and your ex dated and why the relationship ended, and by whose choice?
Based on your answer to this question, I also would like to know if anything materially has changed regarding the issue or issues that resulted in the break-up.
How much time passed between the end of that relationship and when you began your relationship with the man to whom you are now engaged?
Finally, is this the first contact that you’ve had with your ex since you’ve been in the relationshp with your fiance?
Post # 5
@Brielle: My ex and I dated for 6 years on and off…it was young love so as you could imagine there was a lot of arguing and we both had been unfaithful. I got over those things because we were so young and immature. We also couldnt stay away from each other. The relationship ended on mutual terms….he was away at college and so was I …which made us argue more due to the distance.
Things have changed…we are both adults with careers and in other relationships. The issues we had were non existitng to me once I matured…but he still holds some grudges.
Stopped seeing my ex about a year before my fiance and I began dating. When I got engaged he contacted me to say “congrats” then we talked here and there like two or three times via social media and he said his g.f found all the messages. By the way…I forgot to mention the day after we spoke he blocked me of facebook. So he doesnt want his g.f to see FB messages but he still loves me and cant stop thinking about me? Its just too much for my heart to handle
Post # 6
@mrsbee21: whenever someone is about to get married or right after they get married they think if they made the right decision. I think your ex wants you to still be in love with him. Even if you did break off your engagement do you think your ex would not propose to his GF and go back to you? Your ex said he thought it would never work out. Sounds like hes playing games with you.
Post # 7
@mrsbee21: OK. Thank you for sharing those details.
Since you cannot control anything about your ex boyfriend at present or in the future, we must set all of that aside right now as I ask you the following very important questions:
Do you have a committed and romantic love for your fiance, and do want to — and are you ready to — spend the rest of your life with him — forsaking ALL OTHERS, as long as you both shall live?
Regardless of what happens with your ex-boyfriend, if you cannot say “yes” to those questions, you should not marry your fiance.