Post # 1
so once a week at my internship we get pizza for the kids. after the group where we eat the pizza was over, there was some leftovers and my boss asked me if i want to take it home. i said “no thanks, i am on my wedding diet”. she looked me funny as if she didn’t understand, so i told her again. and she said “oh, you’re getting married (note, this is now the third time this year i have told her)”…..then she follows that with “My condolences”……i was like um what? so i asked “did you mean condolences because i am getting married or because i am watching what i eat for the next 2.5 months?” she says “because you are getting married” then she laughs and says “i say that to everyone i hear is getting married because marriage is really tough”.
she is divorced by the way.
i didn’t know what to say! i think i said something along the lines of “oh, i am not worried”.
but seriously? did she really say that? and thought it was appropriate or funny? i thought it was funny as in i am laughing at her for being so clueless!
just thought it was an entertaining story to share.
Post # 3
lame… not the story the comment… some people are just bitter
Post # 4
some people cant help themselves can they
oh and well done for saying no to the leftover pizza – great will power!
Post # 5
@dynamic_duo: O dear goodness… me myself I would have said something like no wonder you are divorced or I am sorry you a bitter old hag but you handled it quite well =)
Post # 6
she sounds like a negative nelly, it really just shows how unhappy she is/was and has nothing to do with your wonderful day that is only 2.5 months away! it sucks that you have to spend time with her, but maybe make a game out of it- how many terrible things can she say in a day/week? not to mean to her, but so that you can keep your focus on being happy and not let her get you down.
Post # 7
@Phofe2774: thanks for the support, but no worries, she did not get me down!! i just couldnt believe that someone would actually say that and thought it was an entertaining story to share!
Post # 8
My former boss said something like this to me shortly after I got engaged. I didn’t let it bother me, he’s just jealous ’cause he can’t get a girlfriend. 🙂
Post # 9
My boss has made comments similar to this, some about my fiance such as “poor guy”. He has been divorced 3 times…
I wouldn’t pay any mind to those comments, some people are just jaded!
Post # 10
Wait until you get married, then you’ll get the snide comments about how you ‘must’ hate your husband or how dumb he is or something along those lines. I don’t understand people like that, but its all too common!
Post # 11
@emilygrace07: Misery loves company! There are going to be a few naysayers like that who will try to dampen your spirits, but just ignore her. And keep reminding her that you’re getting married just to get at her ;o)
Post # 12
I honestly can’t believe how people always have something negative to say about marriage. All the guys J has ever worked with used to tell him “oh, wait til you’re married and have kids – it all goes downhill from there”. I used to get so angry about it. Just because they’re not happy, doesn’t mean we won’t be.
Argh. Such ignorance.
Post # 13
@2PeasinaPod: haha, i like that idea. perhaps i will find more ways to talk about my wedding in her presence. then again, i am an intern so i don’t want to annoy her too much!
Post # 14
Ugh, there is always that person that is totally against marriage because they got divorced. I am grateful that they want to help us and give us advice. But really? Why are they such downers? Oh well!
Post # 15
My parents just got divorced last year and my mom has been negative about marriage as well. She constantly tries to find ways to compare my FI to my dad and then gets upset when I point out he’s not. I have noticed this by other people I know that are divorced, it does seem to make some people bitter about marriage. If I had a boss make a comment like that to me it would make it awkward for working with them. I hope that isn’t a problem for you.
Post # 16
@BeautifulKatastrofie: thanks, but it doesnt make it awkward to work with her! we generally don’t talk about personal stuff anyway. Plus, everyone else i work with is so supportive and always excited to hear about my wedding plans! (more so than my friends and BMs sometimes, lol).