Post # 1
the stress, the dress, the flowers, the family dramas, the invite 2 and get 4 rsvp’d, the no kids but people bring them anyway, the FMIL sticking her nose in or not and did i mention family drama?
we’re eloping, we’re not telling anyone and will mail the announcements at the airport before heading off, coming back married and will have a catered family thing for about 150 people 2 weeks after we get back. i have no interest in the show that goes with a wedding (although i LOVE other peoples wedding plans, im a total wedding tragic when it comes to other people)
as a newbie to this site im seeing alot of reasons as to why the thought of planning my own wedding turned me off…… so why do you do it? or can some of the now married Bees tell us if they would do it again?
goodluck to all the brides to be out there… i think you are amazing in tackling a wedding
Post # 3
Have fun! That sounds like so much fun for you and your FI. The important part is that you’re doings YOUR way a la Sinatra. 🙂
Post # 4
I’m having fun. I didn’t think I would at first, but I’m having lots of fun. I think I’ll find new ways to do crafts even when the wedding is over. I’ll also try to stay in better touch with family and friends who are coming out to celebrate with me.
Post # 5
because it’s fun! it’s a celebration! and I think it pays off all the effort; it’s the only time you can be a planner a designer a coordinator and an artist
Post # 6
Me too, I am with mary-alice, I am having alot of fun and bounding with my FH.
Post # 7
this is such an important and happy time of my life and i want to share it with all my friends and family! and of course with all that comes stress, but like pp its fun! when else are you going to have the opportunity to have a celebration like this again?
Post # 8
Haha i am about to jump on board with you all joking aside. It is stressful on me now and i am a yr out yet…ugh just curious if anyone did change their minds going from planning to eloping?
Post # 9
I’m just starting out, and hoping not to deal with most of this stuff.
But I’m doing it for two main reasons:
1) I want the people I love and am close to to be there when I make this commitment, and
2) My cousins are Mormon so my grandmother won’t be able to see their weddings, so she only gets to see mine and my sister’s, so it’s pretty much expected that I’ll have a wedding.
(But honestly? It’s mostly number 1.)
Post # 10
im one of those Theresaimpa…. we actually had a reception centre booked at then both my partner and i felt it was becoming about "the wedding" and no longer about us so we talked about what was important to us and what we wanted.
Post # 11
I think people make it harder tha it has to be
Post # 12
We’re doing it because we want to celebrate with our families. And so far, we haven’t really had any drama. But then we are both pretty laid back people and our lives are pretty drama free.It’s also going to be not so traditional.
Our families are doing the food and our guest list is not ironclad, so if more show up, it’s not a big deal. We are having kids at the wedding-the more the merrrier. Not doing the bouquet or garter toss. Probably not doing the unity candle. I’m wearing a short dress. Having only a MOH and a Best Man and two flower girls. I don’t care what my MOH wears as long as it’s dress and not white/ivory.
We are in our 30’s and it’s a first wedding for both of us. Our parents are helping to pay but are letting us do it our way. I guess we’re pretty lucky!
Post # 13
Because I like party planning . Because I like the chance to bond with my in-laws , my new sister. Because I want my family there to share in the moment. There are a million different reasons , but i agree , you have to do what’s right for you.
Post # 14
i think wedding planning is so super fun! it’s a big party! and honestly it’s been great practice for me and FI in how we plan, communicate, compromise. we’ve lived together for almost three years, travelled all over together, and still learning things through this process. amazing!
i definitely understand now how things turn into a circus tho! we have constantly struggled with keeping our vision versus what everyone else wants for us. but i think it’s very true to what we’ve wanted from the beginning.
Post # 15
In my opinion, hosting a catered event for 150 people is a wedding reception. So, really, you are putting on "the show" that goes along with a wedding. I don’t think you can knock brides who enjoy planning events. I feel that your post is a bit snarky and condescending.
I look back on my wedding and I don’t regret one thing about planning a traditional wedding. I loved the entire process (and I was engaged for nearly 2 years!). Not everyone’s experience is full of drama and problems. Some people just steer clear of it and remain focused on the ceremony and celebration of marriage.
Post # 16
MrsK2be i didnt meant that at all and apologize if it seems that way – i LOVE wedding plans, just not my own i discovered and i joined here to get some ideas on what i can do for our destination wedding while still keeping it very low key.
i did not intended to be snarky or condescending at all