- 6 years ago
- Wedding: November 2011
So. This whole wedding thing has turned into more than what I bargained for.
FI and I wanted a small, cheap wedding. We didn’t want to put on a big show for a lot of people. We wanted immediate family and close friends only. We wanted a small venue, with a minister, (not a JP or Judge, because that was important to FI). FI wanted the man who performed his grandfather’s funeral to do the wedding, because he liked the way he handled the whole thing.
So FMIL starts going to church where the minister is the minister. (she formerly went to church here anyway.) She then started expecting FI and come to church as well, which isn’t really our thing. Don’t get me wrong. We’re good people, and we’re believers, but both of us are kind of anti-social, and believe that going to church doesn’t make one a Christian more than sitting in a garage makes one a car. Plus, someone EXPECTING us to go to church (or anywhere for that matter) is a slight turn-off.
Then there is also the factor of the fact that I have cut ties from my family (they are toxic).
I am also very concerned that my friends will not show, will not be as supportive/happy as I would like them to be, and I will be hurt and disappointed by this. (wedding sensitivity! – guilty) This is the main issue for me. The wedding would consist mostly of FI’s family and friends anyway. We had already planned on no BM’s, no GM, etc. Neither of us were keen on putting on a big show for everyone else. No invitations have been sent thus far, nor Save the Dates. We’ve got the dress and tux, we’ve got a cake decorator (but no deposit was required, as she was a church member with FMIL), and the photographer was going to be one of the doctors that I work for – so we really aren’t out any money. (or much, anyway).
So. FI mentioned elopement earlier today. I immediately jumped online, and found this: http://www.arkansas.com/hotdeals/details.asp?id=7138&cat=17
$395!! With minister, two nights in a king suite with jacuzzi/hot tub, breakfast, etc. Can’t really beat it! Here’s the official website:
I have placed a call to the people, and hope that the date we want to get married (11-11-11) is available.
What say the bees?? 🙂
Should we go for it, or stick it out with the wedding that we’ve been planning for months?! Oh, and we’d still be going on our honeymoon as planned. 🙂
**should have been posted in the Hive, but unsure how to fix this. 🙂