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@gocubbies: I remember one afternoon when J told me he had a dream about some girl who he used to be friends with and me. I cannot say I was thrilled by it.
I also recall a time when he told an old friend that he had a dream about her. I think that one bothered me the most because he tells me that he rarely has dreams. Especially about people.
But like you, I want to be the cool girlfriend and not make a big deal about dreams. It's hard though. You'll forget about it soon enough. =)
Wow. We all realize we can't control our dreams, but why would he tell you that? Unless he was obviously teasing you (and it doesn't sound like he was), there is such a thing as oversharing. Sometimes, you need to just keep it to yourself!
Ugh. Sorry you had to hear that from it. It was way insensitive of him.
Oh no !! Im so sorry :( Maybe he was just trying to change the subject or make you upset in a way that would take your mind off the " something sparkly" because he may actually be planning to do it soon and just wants it to be a HUGE surprise!
I'm sorry, I had to laugh--this whole situation is a perfect example of men vs. women. Guys tend to not have the same filter as we do, which would explain why he told you--but to be fair, you DID prod him to tell you about the dream. He should have bluffed, but you did ask. If it were me, I'd just laugh it off and give him crap about it.
@deetroitwhat: He is 28, so old enough to keep that crap to himself! haha.'
@DesireeAnne: What the heck! I'm sorry that you had to hear about not-so-pretty dreams too. Men just are oblivious to women's sensitivity sometimes I think. And it's so true, I know tomorrow it won't even be a big deal. He actually said he was sorry just now for ruining my great morning. :)
@Neva: I do think he meant it in a very light way, he wasn't being serious about it at all, but STILL!
@Chiotilidieo: AWWW! :D That's such a positive thought! Thank you
It's okay to have dreams, but I think he should respect you enjoy to NOT tell you about it! There are just some things that are not meant to be shared with our SO.
My mom always told me... don't ask questions that you're not prepared to hear the answer to. Case in point : )
@Mrs Grape: Don't be sorry for lauging! I mean, seriously, in all reality it is funny. It definitely goes to show how much men and women are really different in that respect. And yes, he totally brought that up, I DID ask. But just didn't get even close to the answer I was expecting! lol. And oh yes, he's been getting a lot of crap via text... For example, he says I'm glad you had a great dream and told me about it, it made you happy, it makes me happy. Me.. Oh it was amazing! I can't tell you enough :) Although I'm sure your random girls experiece was even better, it's hard to beat no strings attached affairs ;)
@Camie: DITTO. They just don't think sometimes, haha.
@AEMalmostK: Especially if you assume the answer beforehand and then it's 180 degrees from what you wanted to hear, even worse! haha
@gocubbies: Oh, it's okay. Sometimes he's too honest with me, but I guess it's better sometimes that he shares it with me. But I definitely felt my tummy go all gooeyish when he told me. I don't ask these days. I figure if there's something he wants to share, he'll share.
It really is funny to get all weird hearing about dreams that are beyond our control. I'm laughing about it as I type this.
@DesireeAnne: Last year, I had a dream I had an affair with Obama... so yeah, you never can tell :) hahaha. But I kept it to myself. I agree with the idea that if he has something he wants to share, he'll share it. And yes, at least you know he's honest! And that's def. a good thing.
@gocubbies: Dude you should be like, I had another dream..."It was me, four underwear models in the carribean, forget about what I said about sparkly."
@gocubbies: That is too funny. I definitely keep my dreams to myself sometimes, but like him, I rarely have dreams about people in them. Mine are just really odd dreams that make wake up questioning what it was about.
@deetroitwhat: I like your style of thinking. :P
@deetroitwhat: My THONG was sparkly, that's what I meant!!! hahahahaha
@DesireeAnne: Do you just have dreams that involve you and no one else, or people you don't know? Dreams fascinate me!
@gocubbies: I usually have dreams about me and random people that I never met. I'll have dreams with family members involved. I rarely have any that involves any romance or sexual tendencies. I remember one morning I woke up kind of freaked out. I was in a dream, but it wasn't me. So weird..
@DesireeAnne: Dreams ARE weird, and yes I rarely ever have sexual dreams, maybe twice a year.. but I do have romantic/relationship dreams often, and also dreams about people in my live in genereal... but the majority of the time it's really random people i haven't seen in years. Hmm.. who knows?
That's funny my FI has the opposite kind of dreams and then is mad at me all day. He had a dream I dumped him for my co-worker and he was seriously mad at me for a day. Try not to let it upset you.
@rbauzo: OH NO!!! That's awful! :/ So not fair to you.
And also, we are totally over this. I drank a cup of coffee and laughed it off, and definitely took Mrs Grape's advice to heart. It's nothing to get in a big squabble over. He's said he's sorry more than once, and I know he didn't mean to upset me.
Haha wow That is pretty typical of a guy! You are giving your hint about a sparkly ring and how wonderful it made you feel and he's like ...yeah 3 naked chicks. LOL. I honestly think he is just being a guy, I dont think it's a reason for concern and it might have been his way to throw you off that he is thinking the same thing about an engagement...otherwise, he is just DEFINATELY being a dude! :)
Dream cheating bugs me, too. Luckily, DH doesn't tell me if he does, but I always have dreams where he dream cheats on me and I wake up pretty pissed off. One night, I thought it was real and I punched his arm (not hard, just was like WTH is going on here?!) He woke up and asked me what he did and I realized it wasn't real and just told him he dream cheated on me. After consoling me, he laughed and asked if she was hot. Sometimes, they just don't understand.
Yeah, shoulda kept that to himself...I certainly kept the one I had last night about some fine ass random man I was in a cornfield with to myself.LMAO
LOL @stellablue5997 My husband dreams about me doing something to make him mad and will actually wake up and be mad at me for a while till he realizes it was a dream. He will tell me I woke up so mad at you because you did this in my dream. We just laugh about it. I have done it too!
If it bugs you I don't understand why you choose to still mention and talk about it? Why not drop it and attempt to just forget about it?
I tend to agree with the poster who said don't ask questions you're not prepared to hear the answer to. I've learned that lesson the hard way. But now I choose to not ask!
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We were talking at lunch today, and I'm having a great day. I went to bed early so I actually have energy today, I had a dream last night he proposed with a GORGEOUS ring (exactly the one we've picked out!), and it's FRIDAY!
But.. here's the lunch conversation:
Me: "I had an awesome dream last night... and I went to bed early and feel GREAT"
Boy: "What was it about?"
Me: "It had something sparkly in it, and I liked it a lot"
Boy smiles.. and says: "I had a great dream the other night too"
Me: "What was it?"
(He's smiling sheepishly the whole time, and I'm thinking it was something halfway sweet)
I prod him to tell me and he doesn't want to.
Boy (finally): "I was in a tent with three random girls" (smiling!!)
Me "Nice, I bet you enjoyed that!"
Really, dude? Some things are just better left unsaid. I know it's just a freakin' dream, but still…
I'm trying to take it very lightly and let it swing right past me, but for some reason it's really kinda bothering me. I really want to be the "cool" girlfriend about this because it isn't that big of a deal... Maybe it's because of my expecation of him telling me about a dream about ME. I figure if he would have told me without any of the engagement dream talk beforehand, it probably wouldn't bug me as much. My subconscious mind was on getting engaged and his was on being with other women. Awesome!
(Btw... I've definitely had dreams about other men here and there, who doesn't? Dreams are crazy... but I'd never actually tell him about them! Especially if he'd just told me about a great dream he had about me.)